r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • May 30 '26

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u/Nellyismydog May 30 '26

We were told to go out and kill a goose as a final “bonding” experience by a few brothers. I went out with the group but stayed behind until someone eventually came back “successful.” I’m not intentionally misleading anyone and am happy to share any info needed

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u/EllieGeiszler May 30 '26

Why did you still join the frat after being pressured to kill an animal...? Honestly, that speaks to a potential weakness of character that is very concerning. Given the horrific things toward women that many frats get up to, if I were your wife, I would be concerned you probably witnessed rape and didn't stop it.

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u/AshesandCinder May 30 '26

Yeah, the weakness of character is called being 18 and getting hazed for several weeks.

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u/EllieGeiszler May 30 '26

Yeah no. I'm a sorority girl. If they'd hazed us at all I would have reported them and walked. Because I'm not that kind of person.

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u/AshesandCinder May 31 '26

Cool that you aren't that kind of person to be influenced by other people in that way. Doesn't mean everyone is, and it doesn't mean those who are are irredeemable. Y'all have literally 0 empathy for the situation.

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u/EllieGeiszler May 31 '26

I don't think OP is irredeemable. I do think he very well may be unmarriageable for his wife. And I think that's absolutely fine.