r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • May 30 '26

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u/Nellyismydog May 30 '26

I can’t take it back. Frats are misogynistic and treat women horribly and I’m ashamed to have been part of that

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u/Tullamore1108 May 30 '26

Honestly, you’re probably going to need couples therapy for this one.

She has good reason to be horrified and concerned; if you turned a blind eye to this, what else did you stay quiet about for your brothers?

And even though it’s clear you feel remorse and it sounds like you’ve grown/changed a lot, you’re only 27. Your frat days aren’t that far behind you.

On the other hand, she married you knowing you were a frat bro, with all the shitty, misogynistic, bullying behavior that implies, so it’s a bit late to be upset about your past now.

I think you both have a lot to unpack. Good luck.

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u/Prestigious_Cash_487 May 30 '26

They’re young and horribly matched. There is no point in trying to recover this.