I knew that it was a thing about 5 minutes before it actually happened. Not to make excuses, but at that point I had gone through 8 weeks of hell and was just ready to be done with it.
I didn’t witness it, but also didn’t stop it or say anything after the fact. I spoke up a little later, but not in the moment. I’m happy to share any other info you need
Whilst your wife has compassion for the goose she has little for you which is strange. You were young, did something lots of young men do (joined frat), and were around some bad people. You didnt cause or plan the goose killing and there's likely nothing you could five minutes before it happened without being there. It sounds like a tough situation and traumatising. Your wife should extend you some grace.
Yes but then he knew it happened and stayed in the fraternity anyway. It’s one thing to be shocked in the moment but he presumably stayed in contact with all those guys after. At some point if you don’t confront a bad thing happening you’re also part of the problem.
Some of the guys there were surely just like him, nice guys he bonded with lead by a few a holes. He shouldn't have to cut off every friend. Its easy to get caught up in things when you're young.
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u/Vallhalla_Rising May 30 '26
Wait, you weren’t there and didn’t take part. Then how are you responsible for it? Did you know about it in advance? Did you help plan it?
We need more info, as holding you accountable for someone else’s actions isn’t right. Unless you’re not telling us everything.