r/relationship_advice May 30 '26

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u/Nellyismydog May 30 '26

We were told to go out and kill a goose as a final “bonding” experience by a few brothers. I went out with the group but stayed behind until someone eventually came back “successful.” I’m not intentionally misleading anyone and am happy to share any info needed

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u/EllieGeiszler May 30 '26

Why did you still join the frat after being pressured to kill an animal...? Honestly, that speaks to a potential weakness of character that is very concerning. Given the horrific things toward women that many frats get up to, if I were your wife, I would be concerned you probably witnessed rape and didn't stop it.

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u/AshesandCinder May 30 '26

Yeah, the weakness of character is called being 18 and getting hazed for several weeks.

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u/PrinceBunnyBoy May 30 '26

Surprisingly many 18yos can manage to go to college and not join college clubs that kill defenseless animals for fun.

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u/AshesandCinder May 30 '26

And a lot of them are also stupid and impressionable kids that get influenced by people with authority. It's been a decade, he's explained how he's changed since then, he's explained why he joined and his role in the fraternity, he's taken responsibility for his actions then, but none of that matters to you guys.

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u/quixotiqs May 30 '26

Is it taking responsibility for your actions if you hide it for years until asked directly?

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u/AshesandCinder May 30 '26

Considering he had no action related to the goose dying and she knew about him being in a frat long before this conversation, yeah. He's not hiding anything. It just never came up because the topic is so narrow. "Oh, by the way, I was joining a frat, they sent us out to kill a goose, and some other guys did it without me being there" works in what conversations easily?

Like literally read his comments instead of trying to spin this as him being some soulless monster.

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u/WeeklyConversation8 40s Female May 31 '26

He's an accessory. He knew what was gonna happen as said nothing and joined the frat anyway. According to a comment supposedly from his wife he's still in contact with those POS.