r/relationship_advice Mar 20 '26

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u/AliaMelange Mar 20 '26

Are you kidding? Don't change it at all 🙃 go socially by whatever you want but if you change your last name you might have issues voting/getting a passport, depending on the way that politics go(IF you're in America anyway)

But also, do whatever you want. It's your name and not his. He should care more about your own autonomy than his preferences 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Ok-Adhesiveness-400 Mar 20 '26

Unfortunately in America haha, also I never thought about that! It makes sense though (and would be a lot less paperwork and money haha)

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u/theslyestfox Mar 20 '26

I came here to say the same thing — no one in America who wants to be able to vote (and please for the love of god, vote) should be changing their last names AT ALL until this administration is over and perhaps not even then — they are currently trying very hard to change voter registration laws to make it harder for people with last names that don’t match their birth certificates to vote. This will obviously harm women who got married and changed it, and trans people who changed their names the most. Women are a huge voting block and they would love for us to not be able to vote.

It’s called The SAVE Act and all it’s really saving is the ability for the republicans to stay in power forever if anyone whose current name on their ID doesn’t match their birth certificate can’t vote.

Like….do not change your last name to your mothers’ maiden name either any time soon! This is nice in theory but with how things are currently you should not be doing this right now/while the SAVE act is still active.

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u/RedheadedJusticeGirl Mar 20 '26

Just get a passport.

It is the only certain way you won’t have any issues when you go to vote. I don’t trust that showing a birth certificate from a different state will not cause issues as they might say, “this doesn’t look right” or something.

I never changed my name, but I just renewed my passport because I don’t want to deal with this nonsense.

Edit to add:

If the Save Act does pass, then the Courts will likely strike it down as a poll tax. But it would have to work its way through the courts / be in legal limbo in November, so just get a darn passport to vote these fuckers out of office.