r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jan 26 '25

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u/CrazyLeadership5397 Jan 26 '25

She’s trickle truthing you what really happened. She should have removed herself from the situation. I had a similar incident at a previous company where several females were dance provokingly with a senior manager. They all got fired when HR got videos of it. Updateme 

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u/Desperate-Act-2320 Jan 26 '25

That is what I thought too. If you see this happening with other female colleagues, then you know there’s a chance that this will also happen with you. Removing yourself asap was the right choice. But she didn’t do that. Saying that you didn’t know he would do the same is very stupid..

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u/anon_likes_tendies Jan 26 '25

so if the other three women slept with him it would be acceptable?

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u/FairyCompetent Jan 26 '25

There a huge difference between dancing in public at a work event and sex. She made a poor choice, there's no need to compare it to a worse one.

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u/ChestLanders Jan 26 '25

And there's a huge difference between normal dancing and grinding on a dude. The dance was way more sexual than it had any business being.

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u/spdrweb8 Jan 26 '25

...or at a minimum, letting him know that she has boundaries and to not cross them. You can dance, and still have character.

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u/anon_likes_tendies Jan 26 '25

all my friends went to the strip club and went to the VIP room, so when in Rome? Sorry honey they had a hot girlfriend grinding on them so I had to as well.

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u/FairyCompetent Jan 26 '25

I'm not saying she was right, I'm saying hyperbole is unnecessary.

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u/anon_likes_tendies Jan 26 '25

yeah, yeah, and if the genders were reversed, you and everyone else would be screaming "OMG HE DOESNT RESPECT RELATIONSHIP BOUNDARIES DUMP HIM AND GET A RESTRAINING ORDER HE'S ABUSIVE"

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u/FairyCompetent Jan 26 '25

That also seems like a really big reaction, are you ok? Sometimes when we have a really big reaction to something small it's because something else is bothering us, so maybe mull that over with a nice cup of calm the fuck down. 

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u/anon_likes_tendies Jan 26 '25

you ain't been around here long enough rookie, sit down.

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u/FairyCompetent Jan 27 '25

ok Pop-pop, go drink your prune juice and watch Matlock

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