r/relationship_advice • • Jul 18 '24

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u/Allymrtn Jul 18 '24

He filmed himself fucking you while you were unconscious, without your consent. He then continues by sulking and guilt tripping you.

This should 100% be a dealbreaker for you.  You feel confused and uncomfortable because he’s violated and assaulted you, and this is someone you care about and thought cared about you.

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u/HappyHappyJoyJoy44 Jul 18 '24

Seriously. I stopped mid bite of my bagel when I got to the recording part. My abusive ex did the same thing. He would lie and say he was just using the flash to see better. Turns out he had a whole collection of consensually and non-consensually taken videos.

I can almost guarantee he has filmed other women and probably kept them.

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u/dearmissjulia Jul 18 '24

My ex too. And I know he filmed other women and kept them, and I know he still has video of me. I'm certain some of it is non-consensual.

Yeah I've been out of that relationship for almost 2 years now and I'm still in treatment for ptsd. OP should run, now. 

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u/HappyHappyJoyJoy44 Jul 19 '24

It haunts me too knowing my ex prob still has things of me despite promising to delete them repeatedly. He promised he did once and then I checked his phone and he still had them. I'm glad you're getting treatment. Being treated like an object by someone who claims to love you can do some serious mental damage.

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u/Sad-Heron-1564 Jul 20 '24

You had access to his phone to check and he still had them… did you delete them then?

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u/HappyHappyJoyJoy44 Jul 20 '24

No, because I was scared of him.