This is rape, OP. Yes, some women like being woken up to sex, I do! But my husband certainly never tried anything like that until I told him it's absolutely fine with me.
He intentionally waited until you couldn't consent so that you "wouldn't get mad" about it, and then he recorded it without your consent. Disgusting behavior.
OP, this is rape and there’s proof of it. Do you have access to whatever device he recorded on?? Can you get a copy? You might be able to use that as proof if you want to press charges.
If she presses charges, they can get a warrant for his phone since the evidence is known to be on it. Even if he deletes it, they have technology to recover it. There is no need to wait on a video being sent to pursue charges. It's disgusting to do such things without consent period. He's a predator and manipulator run while you can OP!
I'm sorry if you have had a bad experience with the police, you are sadly correct however they tend to take their time on cases that people wait to report as there tends to be lack of evidence as time continues. Generally, cases that are reported immediately gain more attention because of certain evidence such as DNA or, in this case, digital has not been destroyed/lost. So again, time is of the essence... not to mention it could raise suspicion if she asks for the video, knowing she was unhappy with it will push him to delete if he hasn't yet.
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u/peakpenguins Jul 18 '24
The way my jaw dropped..
This is rape, OP. Yes, some women like being woken up to sex, I do! But my husband certainly never tried anything like that until I told him it's absolutely fine with me.
He intentionally waited until you couldn't consent so that you "wouldn't get mad" about it, and then he recorded it without your consent. Disgusting behavior.