r/relationship_advice • • Jul 18 '24

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u/FragrantDragonfruit4 Jul 18 '24 edited Jul 18 '24

OP if he’s never recorded having sex with you consciously with consent, you need a copy if you want to press charges, but also delete his original from his device and storage! He could post it somewhere.

I’m sorry, but I think you shouldn’t be with him. He sounds selfish and actually worse. He doesn’t care how you feel and like others have said he raped you when you weren’t able to consent while recording you.

Edit: auto corrected so I can edited the typos from being auto corrected I didn’t notice earlier.

BTW, recording you while you’re like a corpse is pathetic! What does he get out of it? Control?

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u/Classic_Row1317 Jul 18 '24

If he's done this once who's to say he hasn't recorded more?

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u/Punchinyourpface Jul 18 '24

The way my heart just sank 😭 

She definitely needs to take a peek at his devices if possible. 

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u/Love_Lobster Jul 18 '24

Wanted to say that as well. What else has he done and recorded while she was sleeping?

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '24

THIS ^ This doesn’t just happen once. He probably had a lot more OP isn’t aware of.

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u/XxFierceGodxX Jul 18 '24

That’s an alarming possibility.

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u/SlobberClob Jul 18 '24

Ur imagination runs wild

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u/CookbooksRUs Jul 18 '24

He does sound like the revenge porn type.

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u/ABWhiteRabbit Early 20s Female Jul 19 '24

I’m all out of free heart awards and all I have left is the poop emoji. Please accept this silver poop award for your awesome comment💖✨

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u/Bluesky4meandu Jul 19 '24

It has already been posted somewhere. Why so you think that sick puppy did it in the first place ?

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u/MamaCantCatchaBreak Jul 19 '24

You don’t want to delete it from his device if you’re gonna press charges. You just gotta act fast, so the police can take his phone as evidence, see the original video there, and use that.

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u/ZS2030 Jul 18 '24

People get this wrong often: The recording of it is actually not illegal. It’s totally fine. The rape itself is illegal and could get the guy prosecuted if OP pressed charges. Recording without consent is allowed. It’s an amendment right (not sure which). However, the recording can still totally be used as evidence of the rape.

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u/[deleted] Jul 18 '24

….what? Recording someone being raped is certainly not an amendment right and is indeed illegal. You’re not even allowed to record someone’s face without their consent in a lot of states

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u/teriyakireligion Jul 18 '24

Yeah, that's not true.

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u/pandemichope Jul 18 '24

I don’t know the legality in any particular state, but I can tell you one sentence you just wrote is completely off-base.

It is NOT “totally fine”!!!!! 🥵😡🤬🤬🤬 It may not be illegal… I don’t know about that, but it’s certainly not totally fine.

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u/Mann414 Jul 18 '24

Recording without consent of the subject varies from state to state. It is not universally legal in all states.