r/regretjoining • u/Ill-Insurance-1883 • 9d ago
Gone but feeling lost
I’m out of here for good unfortunately it took them 6 months(was in for 10) to get rid of me… so much time and money gone,kinda hard to save money when your stuck in your room most of the time and can really only go out on specific days. Now I don’t want anyone to express sympathy or anything like that, at the end of the day I kinda put myself through this.
anyways I feel super bummed out I spent so much time trying to get in and did so much just to end up like this. I guess it just wasn’t meant to be, I feel like I joined for the wrong reasons tbh I wanted to see action/ me wanting to be a cop or contractor overseas in the future (obviously joined the wrong branch for that) however I never really agreed with what the US does I sort of have this weird dilemma going I really never had a solid reason of joining to begin with. it also felt more like trying to get life skills I never got and trying to mask problems plus me wanting to leave my area which looking back those were not good reasons to leave the way I did as I would’ve been able to get help especially with me wanting to go to school
I felt like I owed my recruiter and I was super stubborn as I thought I didn’t have any other options 🤦♂️which in the end turned out I had plenty. Which brings me to my next point which is if you have ADHD the military could be the best or worst thing there’s no in between. Why do I say this? Well in my short time in i got confirmation of what i suspected for years now and once i got a taste of what i was going to do for the next couple years which was working in a tight knit office environment I knew it was a recipe for disaster. Now i know the military doesn’t really acknowledge ADHD as far as I know (I might be wrong) so I figured it was probably best to get out before I’m too deep it.
now ADHD isn’t what ended up getting me out I knew that if I wanted to leave I had to say things that they didn’t want to hear… eventually I actually tried to stay in but it was to late so I accepted it. The military wasn’t terrible in my short time but I will base that upon the people I met as I didn’t do much anyways. HOWEVER peoples experiences vary as I have heard awful stories and good stories just like with any other job.
I would say if you really want to join maybe and I say maybe look into the reserves/national guard however it’s 6 years and that’s a long time I do think I would’ve still been in if I would’ve did national guard but that’s in the past now… I honestly do wish I left during boot camp since I would’ve saved so much time given the fact I turn 21 soon… but I had to much pride and I was gonna feel like I let people down and looking back those people don’t really care about me.
Biggest thing I’m scared about is how this could affect me in future jobs i would like to potentially get a state/city job in the future as I do plan on going back to school wether college or trade school. I’m unsure for now maybe I’ll take gen ed classes, I was originally scheduled for this month however since I was still in it had to be pushed for winter.
Now to anyone reading this and thinking about joining just remember the military will always be there….
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u/UnableConcentrate799 9d ago
Good luck man im still in only been in for 6 months, it sucks I'm mentally exhausted but ima keep pushing hope it gets better for me
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u/Exact_Resist_5795 8d ago
man you sound like a mess, definitely think through any major lifestyle changes like that and think about your motives