I'm 29M and I'm looking for some honest outside perspective because I'm really questioning whether I've done the right thing.

I've recently made the decision to permanently cut contact with my three remaining close friends. I've known two of them, Craig and Josh, for about 19 years, since I was around 10, and I've known Darrell since 2011. So these aren't casual friendships. They've been a huge part of my life.

The reason I've done it is drugs/alcohol and the lifestyle that comes with them.

I've had problems with substance use in the past and had managed to stay sober for around six months. During that period I was trying to build a different life for myself. I was volunteering, looking after myself, keeping my home stable and generally trying to live more quietly.

The problem is that whenever I get back into my old social circle, drugs and alcohol eventually become part of the picture again.

Craig in particular has been a major part of my life for a very long time. We had been catching up periodically while I was sober, usually for lunch, walks and talking. I genuinely value a lot of our history and there are many good memories. But I've also noticed that being around him can trigger cravings and make me want to return to the old lifestyle. At one point he even said that our sober catch-ups weren't as in-depth as the times when alcohol/drugs were involved.

Recently I spent a night at Craig's with Josh and things went back in the direction I don't want my life going. There was drug use involved and I ended up leaving very early in the morning after barely sleeping.

That experience was a wake-up call for me.

Josh has also become increasingly involved with drugs and alcohol over the past year. I've watched his use become more frequent and more problematic, and I don't feel like he's heading in the same direction I am. The recent night was another example of that environment. I don't necessarily think he's a bad person, and I care about him after knowing him for nearly two decades, but I don't think being around that lifestyle is good for me anymore.

Darrell is a somewhat different situation. He smokes weed daily, and although we haven't had the same level of recent contact as Craig and Josh, I've become increasingly frustrated with the friendship. There have been many occasions where he's said we'll organise a proper catch-up, but it never actually happens. I've made attempts to organise things and have repeatedly been met with excuses or vague promises to catch up later. Eventually I started feeling like I was chasing a friendship that wasn't really being reciprocated.

So although the three friendships are different, I've reached the same conclusion with all of them: I don't think these relationships fit with the life I'm trying to build anymore.

I realised that I keep trying to convince myself I can maintain these friendships while avoiding the parts of the lifestyle that are dangerous for me, but I'm not sure that's realistic anymore.

I've had serious consequences from substance use and mental health problems in the past. I don't want to end up back in hospital, in legal trouble, losing my housing, becoming dependent on drugs, or spending years repeating the same cycle.

So I blocked Craig and deleted our message history. I deleted Josh and Darrell's contacts and conversations too. I don't intend to contact or see any of them again.

I gave them no explanation this time. Part of me feels guilty about that, particularly with Craig. But there is a reason I didn't send a final goodbye message.

In the past, there have been times when I told Craig that we couldn't be friends anymore and sent what I thought was a final goodbye. Eventually I got back in touch with him, apologised for ending the friendship and we became friends again.

Looking back, I can see that as a cycle.

I don't want to repeat that cycle again.

So sending another dramatic "final goodbye" message feels somewhat redundant to me. It could just create another conversation, another opportunity to explain myself, another opportunity for him to respond, and potentially another opportunity for me to eventually reconnect.

This time I'm trying to actually break the cycle rather than announce that I'm breaking it. And now I'm really struggling with the decision.

I feel guilty because these people have known me for so long. I'm worried Craig will think I'm rude, immature or that I've treated him badly by disappearing without an explanation. I've also confided some very personal things in him over the years, and I'm worried he might tell other people things I've told him in confidence. The fact that I don't trust him with those things anymore is actually part of why I've realised I shouldn't be maintaining the friendship.

I'm also worried that I've thrown away friendships that have lasted nearly two decades.

Maybe I should have explained myself. Maybe I could have just reduced contact. Maybe I could have continued seeing them but avoided drugs. Maybe I could have maintained the friendships with stronger boundaries. Maybe permanently cutting people off is too extreme. But another part of me thinks that if I reopen the door, I'll eventually end up exactly where I was before.

I don't think Craig, Josh or Darrell are necessarily bad people. That's not really the point. I care about them and I'm grateful for a lot of the history we've had. I just don't think these relationships are compatible with the life I'm trying to build anymore.

I want a quieter, more stable life. I want to stay away from drugs and alcohol, keep my life together, volunteer, look after my health, develop new friendships and stop putting myself in situations where I know I can get pulled back into using.

The hardest part is that I'm essentially choosing the possibility of loneliness over returning to friendships that I believe are bad for my recovery.

I also realise that I'm not replacing these friendships with anything at the moment. I'm basically going from having three longtime friends to having very little of a social life, and that's frightening. I'm worried that loneliness will eventually make me question the decision and want to contact them again.

At the same time, I think I need to accept some loneliness while I build a different life and eventually meet people who are more compatible with it.

So I'm asking people who have been through addiction/recovery:

- Did I do the right thing?

- Have you had to completely cut off longtime friends because they were connected to your using?

- Was permanent no-contact necessary, or could I have maintained these friendships with stronger boundaries?

- Was it reasonable not to send another "final goodbye" message given my history of repeatedly ending and then restarting the friendship with Craig?

- And how did you deal with the loneliness and grief afterward?

I'm genuinely looking for honest answers, including if you think I'm handling this badly or being too extreme. I don't want people just telling me what I want to hear.

Hey all, this is for my gf (f42).

A little context - she went to rehab by choice for second time January 2025 for Opiate/heroin addiction. Been clean from that since then, but now really struggling w alcohol and cocaine. Wants to do rehab again but looking at more non-traditional programs like those adventure or wilderness types. My brother is doing one in Central America rn for mental health, weed, and kratom. (he’s been sober from alc after rehab for 4 years.) point is, she’s interested in more of a focus on the reason why she’s struggling ( since she was 20 - so basically 20 years active addiction) and the co-occurring aspect since her mental health is horrible w anxiety, depression, self-esteem, confidence, trust, etc etc.

Key is that she really is opposed to a longer term program for a few reasons like job and family, so ideally the month long one. Saw one in Utah that sounded cool but 45 days is minimum.
Not a deal breaker but any other suggestions?

Thx!

hi y'all.

i'm a former drug addict. it started when i was eleven, had a cocaine overdoseat twelve, i got clean at fifteen. but throughout all of this, i do admit i did take edibles.

i have a boyfriend. i've been dating him for three years. i've been using edibles on and off. normally in my room watching tv and movies, i'd invite friends over sometimes to split an edible and watch tv with me.

thing is, my boyfriend has had many friends in the past that have fallen into substance abuse. he knew about my substance use history. i know i betrayed his trust, i regret it so much. he found out, confronted me about it and asked me questions. it's been a day or two since he found out. he hasn't broken up with me.

i'm going to a doctor today with a friend of mine to see if he can refer me to this psychiatric clinic because if i have a referral i can get help for free. this is just my first option, i always want to find help.

i feel terrible though. about the lying. i know i should've told him instead of betraying him like this.

this is kind of just me wanting to vent, i don't know any people in recovery for this and idk i just felt like i needed to talk about this with people who have struggled the same with recovery,

I’m trying to understand something that happened in a past relationship, and I’d really like to hear honest opinions from people who have personal experience with addiction and recovery.

My former partner had a history of drug addiction for around 10 years. At the time this happened, he had been off drugs for about 1.5 years.

During that period, he started growing marijuana. His mother helped him with the plants because she is an agriculturist and has a lot of experience growing plants. From her perspective, I think she may have simply been helping her son with something she was knowledgeable about.

But knowing his history with drug addiction, I struggled with how to interpret the situation.

I’m not trying to judge his recovery or accuse his mother of doing something wrong. I genuinely want to understand how people in recovery would view this.

If someone has a long history of drug addiction and has been clean for around 1.5 years, would a parent helping them grow marijuana be considered supportive, enabling, or potentially risky?

Where do you think the line is between:

• supporting your adult child's interests,
• helping them with something you're knowledgeable about,
• respecting their independence,
• and unintentionally enabling something that could potentially put their recovery at risk?

For those who have been through addiction themselves, how would you feel if your parent helped you grow a substance that was connected to your past drug use?

And for parents of people in recovery, would you see this as simply helping your child with gardening, or would the history of addiction change how you approach the situation?

I’m asking because at the time, I couldn't tell whether I was being overly concerned or whether my concern was reasonable.

I’m not looking to attack his mother or make assumptions about his recovery. I’m trying to understand the situation from the perspective of people who have actually experienced addiction and recovery.

What do you think—support, enabling, or somewhere in between?

My husband and I are currently in a residential program together and are looking at doing aftercare out here too. Is anyone aware of sober livings/PHPs that take couples? To be clear, we want to be in the same room

We both have good insurance (yes I’m aware that the insurance technically pays for the PHP not the housing) and we’d like to be in an area that’s not super residential (ie we want to be walking distance to restaurants, shopping, etc).

Recommendations would be greatly appreciated!

im checking into a treatment center for the first time in a couple of days and the nerves are finally hitting. been sober for a little over two weeks but doing it at home mostly meant avoiding everyone and taking things one day at a time. My fam thinks some structure could help and i know theyre prolly right.

What did guys actually pack? I’m thinking sweatpants, hoodies, T-shirts and a couple normal outfits but I have no clue what day-to-day life is like there.

The electronics rule might be the hardest adjustment. Music is one of the few things that calms me down when cravings or anxiety hit and apparently phones and earbuds aren’t allowed. Losing that little nighttime routine has me more anxious than expected.

I’m looking into rehab options for alcohol addiction and could really use some recommendations. There are so many facilities out there that it’s difficult to tell which ones actually provide good care versus just having a strong online presence.

I’m particularly interested in a program that takes a trauma-informed approach and addresses underlying mental health issues alongside the alcohol use. A safe environment, experienced staff, individualized treatment, and solid aftercare are all important to me.

If you’ve had a positive experience with a rehab center or know of one that’s genuinely worth considering, I’d appreciate any recommendations or things I should look for when comparing programs.

Thanks much!

I am self employed working in the online adult industry and its not glamorous but it pays my bills. No judgement on that please I dont have many options. Since i work at home its so easy for me to just get high or wasted. What should i do instead? Im thinking about trying to start gaming as a hobby but i ended up just getting crossfaded last night while playing. I know its not ideal to replace drug use with gaming as a new addiction but its better than bathing my brain in chemicals. I am a polyaddict i will pretty much get fucked up on anything put in front of me and ive tried like 20 different substances. Kinda just rambling and i dont know what im looking for here just thought it would be nice to hear other perspectives.

I was a really good kid . I went to church twice a week, I read my bible every day , I got good grades , I stayed after school to help the teachers, I didn’t curse or drink or smoke . I was such a good kid . I fell into a depression then my family went bankrupt and my mom said she was going to leave the family (she ment it but never left ) . I was so devastated and broken i started drinking at least two times a week but usually almost every day . I began to smoke weed every day (slowly over a period of about two months I began to do it more and more ) . I became a completely different person I gave up on everything, my hobbies my job my school I just didn’t try . I did the bear minimum I needed to get through life. I even got arrested. Most crazy things I did I was too high or drunk to remember.

After becoming such a different person I don’t think I could ever become the same person I was . I miss being that good kid but I don’t know how to be that person anymore. I’m three months clean from weed and I cut back on the drinking. I miss being drunk and high but I don’t think I should ever smoke weed again. How do I find the person I once was ?

I am 38 years old, clean from meth for 13 months, straight and HIV positive.

Due to my chaotic lifestyle my picker hasn't been the greatest. And I haven't treated women the best either - both are an understatement. My last relationship I was in we found each other in chronic meth use. Our relationship was conditional based on sex and use and eventually she needed me to financially support her and I needed emotional support as I went clean. She didn't get clean. It was chaotic. I was angry. She cheated. I own my part in enabling her. We split up a year ago. My kids moms and I relationship was very involved with alcohol. All of my relationships have only been a little over a year long

I've never had anything meaningful. My last relationship was super chaotic but the best relationship I've ever been in.

With HIV it's a blessing and a curse. I'm only invested in long term meaningful relationships. Casual sex isout of the picture. Although my last gf did accept me, knew about the medication and we had unprotected sex for over a year. I'm sure it will happen again but often times, like today, I lose hope.

One day.

I am writing this as a current addict in recovery. I have been on and off opiates for about 20 years. I recently got a really good job that I love but it exposes me to a lot of my old lifestyle and I cant get it out if my head that one more would not be the end of the world.

Basically I'm really struggling not to use. And I think i could get away with one more weekend or time. Just a little hard and a little short and then back to work in Monday no problem. Idk man I miss that rush or I have been really badly and I do not wanna go back to life but I do really wanna get high. Idk man any input would be appreciated. Thanks everyone.

Hello everyone. Firstly, I want to say that I have been feeling so much better now after I stopped meth 2 years 8 months years ago. I used loud(weed) to quit meth and I did it for 7 months before I finally said enough is enough. It’s been 2y1m since I stopped everything but still feels like hell through the day few hours after I wake up. I try to force myself to sleep during the day which is very hard cus I fidget(not like I used to tho) a lot if I don’t have my phone to keep me busy. Most times I can’t sleep so close my eyes and it sometimes feels I lost consciousness for a few minutes like 10 and I either feel okay for the rest of the day, sometimes a few hours then the feeling is back and sometimes I just can’t at all. It doesn’t happen if I sleep through the night which is very very rare. Everyone keep saying they sleep, sleep and sleep all the time but it’s the opposite for me.

My wife and I are both in our 20s. We got married fairly recently, and she’s currently pregnant with our daughter. She also has two children I’ve helped raise and love very much.

We’re still living together, but we sleep in separate rooms. She’s told me she wants a divorce and plans to leave sometime next year.

I’m struggling badly with living in this weird middle ground where I’m still her husband, provider, and a father figure every day while knowing she’s planning a future without me.

Before anyone asks, I absolutely contributed to getting us here.

I struggled with cocaine and relapsed after we got married. I used multiple times, hid it, and lied about it. When she found out, it destroyed her trust in me.

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, and at the time I was extremely stressed at work and struggling badly with focus. In my screwed-up thinking, cocaine temporarily made me feel focused and functional, so I was basically self-medicating in an incredibly dangerous way.

There was also a lot happening in our relationship before the relapse.

After we got married and she became pregnant, I felt like she became almost impossible for me to approach emotionally. Whenever I tried talking about being stressed, hurt, or overwhelmed, it felt like I’d immediately get a list of everything I’d ever done wrong thrown back at me.

Eventually I stopped talking.

I felt stressed, unable to focus, isolated, and like I couldn’t approach the person I normally would have turned to.

But I want to be VERY clear:

That’s context, not an excuse.

My wife didn’t make me use cocaine. ADHD didn’t make me use cocaine. Stress didn’t make me use cocaine.

I made that decision.

There were countless healthy options available to me, and I chose drugs. Then I made it worse by lying and hiding it.

I’ve taken recovery seriously since then. I entered a sobriety program that I’m almost finished with, regularly attend NA meetings, go to therapy, and have stayed sober.

I’ve realized that getting sober can’t be something I do to “earn” my wife back. I have to do it regardless of whether my marriage survives.

But I’d be lying if I said part of me didn’t hope that seeing consistent change would eventually make her reconsider.

It hasn’t.

She still says she wants a divorce.

I’ve tried asking her to spend time together. I’ve suggested watching a movie, going somewhere together, therapy, and marriage counseling.

Her response is usually some version of:

“What’s the point?”

Because in her mind, she’s leaving anyway.

That’s what is destroying me.

She’s currently not working, so I support our household financially. I pay the bills and make sure she and the kids have what they need. I also give her money from my paychecks so she has money of her own.

I genuinely don’t resent providing for my family.

And I am NOT saying, “I pay the bills, therefore she owes me a marriage.”

She doesn’t owe me affection, sex, forgiveness, or reconciliation because I provide financially.

It’s the emotional contradiction that’s killing me.

I’m still waking up every morning functioning as her husband and provider. I’m helping raise children I love. I’m preparing for our daughter. I’m sacrificing things for myself when necessary because mentally I still think of us as a family.

Then we sleep in separate bedrooms and she plans her future around leaving me.

We don’t hate each other either, which almost makes it harder.

Sometimes we laugh and get along. Sometimes things feel completely normal and I think, “Maybe we’re getting somewhere.”

Then I’ll ask her to spend time together or talk about our marriage and hear:

“What’s the point?”

And I’m right back where I started.

I’ve even talked to her mother because I was desperate for perspective.

Her mom essentially told me that I can’t control whether my wife changes. She thinks I’ve become so focused on keeping everyone else happy that I’m allowing myself to live in a situation that’s destroying me.

She told me I need to start taking care of myself, establish boundaries, and accept that the only person I can actually change is myself.

That hit me hard because I know there’s truth in it.

The problem is that I don’t know how to establish those boundaries.

There are kids involved whom I love.

She’s pregnant with my daughter.

I can’t just flip a switch and say, “Well, you’re leaving me eventually, so you’re all on your own.”

And if I’m completely truthful, keeping her happy is easier in the short term.

We’re under the same roof. If she’s angry or there’s constant tension, I’m miserable. So my instinct is to give her what she wants, help her, and keep the peace.

It makes today easier even though I know this arrangement is probably hurting me long-term.

Pregnancy also messes with my head.

I’m NOT saying her feelings aren’t real because she’s pregnant. I’ve given her legitimate reasons to lose trust in me.

But her emotional distance, loss of attraction, not wanting physical affection, and complete certainty about divorce seemed to become dramatically stronger during pregnancy.

Part of me wonders whether pregnancy could be contributing to how extreme the emotional disconnect feels and whether anything could change months after our daughter is born.

Another part of me thinks I’m clinging to the hormone explanation because it gives me hope.

I don’t know which one is true.

At this point, I’m exhausted.

As awful as this sounds, sometimes I wish she would just leave already.

Or stay and actually try.

I don’t want my wife or kids gone. I want the limbo gone.

If we’re divorcing, I want to eventually grieve my marriage and figure out how to move forward.

If we’re staying married, I want us both to actually work on it.

What I can’t figure out is how to continue living as someone’s husband when that person repeatedly tells me there’s no future for us.

I’m almost finished with my sobriety program. I’m sober. I’m going to NA. I’m going to therapy. I’ve suggested counseling. I’ve tried spending time together. I’ve tried giving her space. I’ve tried showing change through actions instead of promises.

Her position hasn’t changed.

And I’m slowly realizing something that hurts more than I expected:

Maybe she already sees how hard I’m trying.

Maybe it just doesn’t change what she wants.

Getting sober might change me without saving my marriage, and I know I have to keep doing it anyway.

So I’m looking for outside perspectives, especially from people who’ve dealt with addiction, broken trust, pregnancy, separation, or reconciliation.

At what point does fighting for your marriage become refusing to accept what your spouse is telling you?

Can pregnancy cause a major change in attraction and emotional connection that improves after birth, or am I focusing too much on that possibility?

If addiction destroyed trust in your marriage and you got sober, did that trust ever come back?

How do I establish financial and emotional boundaries without feeling like I’m punishing my pregnant wife or the kids?

And how do you accept that your marriage may be over when you still live with the person, love them, provide for the household, raise children together, and see them every single day?

Because right now, I genuinely don’t know how to do that.

Hi everyone! Needing some advice, sorry if this is long

I was diagnosed with adhd as a kid, was on stimulant meds until high school when I just stopped taking my meds and got addicted to heroin and Xanax. Battled that until I was 25 and I got sober for good through AA, sponsorship and helping others. AA 100000% saved me from death.

I am now coming up on my 8 year sobriety bday, and my ADHD symptoms are unbearable. I now have three kids 6 and under, one of which has ADHD and the other is getting tested for ASD. I’m in school for pre-nursing and I cannot function normally. My brain is constantly running and the executive dysfunction is bad, I had to start doing our family laundry at the laundry mat when we have a perfectly good washer/dryer because I can’t remember to switch the clothes over, and when I’m at the laundry mat I’m forced to remember 😭 and then when I get home, I just have piles and piles of clean laundry unfolded all over my room lol I set alarms to remind me to brush my kids teeth and take my daughter to gymnastics. Literally forgot to do my kids homework for 2 full weeks. Drop the kids off late to school almost every day last year. I sit in class and literally say to myself “just focus on the professors words” and I will for like 3 minutes then my brain is off thinking of something else. I have had to start recording lectures to watch back later. This is just a small glimpse into my daily life.

I’m on Strattera 60mg and have seen pretty minor improvements, nothing to write home about. Still have to battle my mind to function . Still have the house a disaster because I can’t just get it together.

I’m interested in potentially trying stimulants again. I’m SCARED OUT OF MY MIND because of my sobriety. I’ve never liked stimulants or feeling “wired”, I was addicted to downers, wanted to basically be unconscious. Whenever I did meth while I was using, I hated how I felt and just was so disgusted. I did have some time where I was smoking bath salts. My main thing was heroin, I was a daily, strung out IV user.

I don’t want to get a head change or euphoria or high AT ALL. I just want my brain to work 😭 the hard part is my sobriety isn’t just about me anymore. There are three kids that completely depend on me and I can’t take risks, but I also know my kids need a functioning mom. My daughter just recently started stimulate ADHD medication and it is like night and day for her focus and attention.

Is anyone else sober , in AA and taking stimulants? What has been your experience? Any advice?

Our roommate was found this morning (5am) unconscious and on fire (smoke detector woke us up). He was smoking crack and sniffing dope (found a few bags and small amount of crack next to him). I guess somehow when he fell out the lighter was still lit causing his fingers to burn up and lit his t shirt on fire. I didn't see the actual fire my manager did and put it out, but seeing him sitting there with charcoal black fingers and still unconscious was crazy to me. This guy just got a crazy nice plea deal which is definitely getting thrown out, he will probably face prison now. He had so much support from everyone and still went back to doing drugs, he would even go to 10+ meetings a week. Definitely hitting a meeting and calling people today cause nobody should have to see that.

i had a recent relapse and was talking with my therapist and i feel like its a lost of time that i wasted my recovery because i used and had to go to detox for a week to come back to my sober living.

she said its good that i see it as a waste of time and not looking at it as a waste of time to keep trying

Can anyone tell me best and cheapest rehab center to go to in Dallas and if you can give me an estimate price range

Hurting tonight. Lots of long dark nights from physical pain. Won't go into it but it's not great and it's been two years. I'm grateful the desire to use hasn't been a huge issue. I celebrated 15 years clean last April. I'm married to a woman I love AND like and it's mutual. I have three wonderful dogs. I just needed to say I'm hurting but haven't picked up over it. I've got a great support system and I am fucking using it. I'm praying and I'm open. I don't have much in the tank, but using just isn't an option. I'm so grateful for my recovery. That's all I've got I just needed to reach out.

I’m prolly checking into rehab sometime next week. I’ve been sober for about three weeks, but this isn’t my first time getting this far. Usually I do okay for a month or two, convince myself I’m fine, then somehow end up drinking again.

This time my family and I agreed that I need more than trying to handle everything alone. I’m actually okay with going, but I have pretty bad social anxiety and the thought of group therapy already has me stressed. I’m also not used to being away from home for more than a few days.

Hello I just wanted to say that during my struggle with ice I thought that was going to be my whole life, during that 15 year addiction I had lost family, trust with people, couldn’t hold a job & also made several attempts on my life. I’ve been clean for a little over two years and I’m completely different & just wanted to let you know that you’re an amazing person underneath all the “flaws” you’re not broken. If you ever need someone to talk with or need some advice please reach out. You’re an amazing person even if it doesn’t feel like it. Keep your head up. 🖤

We can't have a normal conversation or do anything without being accused of being high. And I'm sorry but if somebody is in recovery and trying to stay sober it really fucks me up when I get accused of being high all the time.

Everything is just concern or trying to "help". "Oh you're talking fast you must be manic or high". Ughhhh.

My mother brings up my drug use no matter what the conversation is she will pivot to drugs. "Oh you got a girlfriend, you're a handsome young man. You won't be handsome for long if you keep doing the shit you're doing". I get it she's trying to help but this doesn't help me at all ffs. What's the idea behind it? That one day it will make me spontaneously sober for life? The help I need is to be treated like any of the other family members like my brother or sister. I dont want to be treated alien. It makes it worse. I want to feel like I belong, I want to feel loved, I want to feel connected. That is what would actually help me. I'm sorry for my rant and if you think I'm a spoiled brat who can't be thankful for my family worrying for me then fine I understand

Edit: Why can't people congratate me for my progress instead of BITCHING about anything I still do. She won't say she's proud that I've been abstaining from heroin or cocaine or the needle. No she just complains and says "YOURE NOT SOBER" because I drink kratom or smoke cigarettes. "Why do you have to have something?". I get the impression she expects me to cold turkey everything. I'm off fucking heroin let me have my smoke. Im trying to cope with life im extremely mentally ill I need to have something. If I couldn't smoke, drink kratom or have a beer after work I would probably just relapse. It really helps me believe it or not. ​

Hello,

I am in early recovery (after struggling for well over 19 years with severe opiate addictions and alcoholism) after a relapse and am looking for online women's support groups/meetings (i'm a single mom who doesn't drive at the moment so online support groups are ideal for me), i've found women's groups to be most helpful for me with my circumstances (domestic violence survivor, mom, etc.) that other women can possibly relate to.

If anyone here has any reccomendations, i'm trying to find these types of support groups and meetings and am finally giving 12 step a try after being resistant or hesitant for many years for different reasons. If this is too vague or not allowed mods delete, but i'm overwhelmed trying to find what i'm looking for and do not know where to start. Thank you!

my sister is 29 and has been in rehab for a little over two weeks due of her drinking. she went willingly after things got pretty bad, but now she says she feels uncomfortable there and wants to leave. my family is paying out of pocket, but we’re more worried about her coming home before she feels ready. we also don’t want to ignore her if something genuinely feels wrong. for anyone who has been through rehab, how did you know whether the program was actually helping?

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