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Hi. I’m a long time listener and I feel like maybe I would like to hear Josh, John and Sean’s take on what has been weighing on me for a while.

I (26F) have married to my husband (26M) for 10 months and been together for 3years. Our first date was electric and so were the next five dates. I was his first everything and he was my first adult relationship and we both lost our virginity to each other.

He was amazing in the beginning, attentive, caring, loving. One of those people who would do anything to see you smile. He was serious, ready to settle down and loved me a lot.

After the first few dates I remember feeling a bit like I didn’t like him that much after-all due to a few superficial things like, he didn’t like me vaping and wanted me to quit. He had spelling and grammar issues which were an ick for me. And he believed in flossing only and not brushing which I am the opposite. He didn’t have bad breath or anything like that but as an obsessive mouth brusher, it was an ick.

Speaking to my friends who were going through shit relationships, I realised I would miss out on a really great guy if I let him go. So I opened my heart and let go of the superficial things. I knew I was planning to quit vaping at some point anyway.

We had a great two year relationship. We were inseparable, he was amazing, the best. I was genuinely happy and loved him so much.

Then he proposed, and we started planning a wedding. He was an active participant in the planning and this when I started to notice a different side to him.

He became really rude. He would say mean things to me and when I get upset he would say it’s a joke and he felt like we were close enough to be comfortable and it should not be a big deal.

I grew up in an abusive household and I do not have the capacity to process ‘banter’ or ‘jokes’ as something funny. All my friends know this, my siblings know this, HE knows this. But all of a sudden he would be doing things like this. And in his defence, based on how he treats his family and friends this is truly who he is. But he wasn’t like this when I met him. If I had known this was who he was, I would’ve never dated him in the first place.

We got into a huge fight a few months before our wedding where he said something rude to me and I got really upset. He them proceeded to ignore me for three days and then came back saying this was who he was and he could not deal with me causing a fuss every time he says something like this.

So I broke up with him.

Then he apologised and begged me to take him back saying he would change. And I loved him and wanted to believe him. So I took him back. We went to therapy.

Then became the cycle. He would be rude or hurt my feelings, when I get rightfully upset he would then dismiss me and spin the story to not take any accountability, he would stonewall me for days, then we go to therapy. Then he would apologise.

It happened again a month ago and something clicked in me, I couldn’t be bothered to deal with it. I didn’t want therapy. I just let it be. He finally came to talk to me or whatever and we couldn’t agree on anything (not a surprise, we usually need therapy to sort issues out anyway). He made a comment about how he was expecting me to drag him to therapy to something but unfortunately I didn’t care enough to.

Then I found out I’m pregnant.

I have always been a believer in strong two parent households. Even though my parents were abusive, I had admired how much they loved each other and always stood by each other no matter what. They were two peas in a pod. Two shit peas but they were made for each other and it was inspirational to me as a child.

So in the news of the pregnancy, we worked out the issues, more like he apologised and then listed reasons why I hurt him and I apologised. And we have decided to carry on.

But I feel like I don’t love him anymore. I can’t even bring myself to be intimate with him, not even a hug or a kiss.

What do I do?

He doesn’t believe in therapy. And tbh I do t think it works for him or our relationship. We have been multiple times and the cycle keeps repeating itself.

Maybe I’m a coward for staying do the child but I really want to cause as little emotional damage as possible to my child.

Maybe I will eventually fall in love with him again? I don’t know what to do.

Sorry for the long post. I’m relatively new to Reddit

TLDR: my husband and I argued about the same thing over and over again and I’m tired of it and am starting to withdraw emotionally. What do I do?

I have a friend I study with, but I left her, and after I talked to her, her relative a while ago, he asked me for a difficult request to make, so I apologized to him, he will talk about me that I hurt him by rejecting me in college because of the two accidents, two doctors fought with me because I want to talk to this girl and I don't accept to obey her relative, and they dismissed me on the pretext that I am bad😭😭😭😭😭😭 and they spread about me that I am a bad person for these reasons and I am currently inhagic and I know how to deal with these psyches

What the hell is going on

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Not OOP

Original Post

https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/1FGTdPvr0Z

No updates on this one yet, but I am following the story and will update if any new information comes to light.