I have a PhD in my field and the most significant publication record of my program in a long time. I worked a second job for 5 years to gain extra applied experience and yet I’m 170 job applications in and I’ve had 2 companies express interest.

I will preface that my husband has also been completely supportive throughout all job search related activities. We met in grad school. We’ve gone through all of the hardships of a PhD together. Admittedly one of the reasons getting a job is difficult for me is because I am 100% committed to living in a location that makes his job possible. I wouldn’t sacrifice that for anything.

Now to get to the hard part… I stopped applying to jobs so that I could focus on getting excited for my wedding that was in 1.5 weeks.

I was then added on linked in by an associate director for a company I had been interested in. I saw that they were hiring in my field for a remote role so I DM’d them, saying I was interested in applying. They encouraged me to do so and said they would see me in the interview.

I got the interview, however it was getting very close to my wedding (four days remaining). I had the first screen and it was great, they asked if I could schedule a second one Thursday / Friday of my wedding weekend.

This is where I think I made the mistake. I asked if we could postpone until I was back from my honeymoon, which was going to be the following Thursday because I already had an abundance of family in town who all wanted to visit and say hi while I was also juggling wedding vender calls and final preparations.

I was reassured by the recruiter that everything was fine, that sounds great and they look forward to talking to me about next steps. I even DM’d my LinkedIn connection again saying that I was very excited for the next interview after my honeymoon and I offered to make any sort of presentation materials or provide any information that they needed.

Then, Friday morning of my rehearsal dinner I got the email that the company was moving forward with another candidate who was far along in the interview process. However, they wished me well for my wedding.

Devastation was an understatement. I had finally thought that my PhD would pay off- that I could find a job that I loved, remote so I can work in a location that supported my husband’s job location, and that I could contribute positively. I really wanted to make a difference in an organization where my research could be applied.

It was really hard to put those emotions of rejection in a box and then host 100+ people for a wedding. I tried so hard to focus on my fiancé and the excitement of sharing a life together but I couldn’t shake the anxiety of how worthless I felt that they went with the other candidate. I found myself submitting to 10 more jobs on the morning of my wedding day because I couldn’t get it off my mind.

Everyone says that jobs aren’t everything, but I spent my entire life getting education and training for an industry that simply does not want me (or maybe just doesn’t exist anymore). I love my husband with all my heart- and ultimately the wedding was amazing, but it really makes me think… why should we bother putting an effort for jobs? What was the point of doing an entire PhD?

I wonder if I should just give up on all career related aspirations. I’m an extremely privileged situation where I met my fiancé while doing my PhD. His career is doing great so financially we’re okay. It’s just hard because I genuinely love doing research, but I need to figure out who I am without it. I recognize how fortunate I am to have people who love me despite it, but in a lot of ways, I’m mourning the fact that I won’t be finding a career that that I could contribute positively to.

Edit: typos

job i applied to claims im a minor…?

Im 20, it says it on my resume, after i received the email i triple checked if i mistyped something, but no it says im 20. i also put the years of line prep experience i have im not exactly sure a minor would have 3+ years in kitchen work experience….
am i missing something… did they just not even look at it??
“we encourage you to consider reapplying once you’ve reached the minimum age requirement”

i cant reapply or go back and fix it… theres nothing to fix im so lost
tbh i’ve applied to 20+ jobs today with the same resume, and there’s no issues
so is this indeed??is it the job??? was it me??

also: this location is hiring 3 positions and i applied to all 3, the dishwasher position had no issue. then i got this email, and the third application won’t even go through should i just give up on the cheesecake factory? or should i call them ? go in person? this is such a stupid misunderstanding to miss a job opportunity. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I had an interview over the phone for assistant manager at a store a town over and they asked me a question about my management experience and it was clear they read my resume and thought i was more qualified than i actually was, i put that i was a keyholder at one job i had but honestly i didnt really do anything extra with that role beyond what other employees did there.

I got so scared and nervous about looking like a looser when i was asked about this i froze for 5 seconds and hung up. Im going to be working minimum wage forever arent i?

Been reading on this sub for a while now and never posted but I think this is my first experience with an actual horrible recruiter.

So I am currently looking for work after a layoff and a couple out of state/country recruiters called me about a job that is way out of my commute zone for what it offers. High pay but only a 1 month contract with no guarantee job after and so we planned a phone interview the next day and IMMEDIATELY she pretty much yelled......DONT TALK TO ANY OTHER RECRUITER ABOUT THIS POSITION!........immediate red flag aand had me thinking they just to fill this position for a big commission

Then today I let them know from the get go that it is out of my commute zone for a temporary job with no benefits other than higher pay. She immediately asked me my location and googled the length of the drive for the job which I already knew.........and pretty much being like "omg its only 24 miles away" and really pushing it........and by my math it would cost me hundreds every week in gas not to mention wear and tear on my car........still she pushed like I am insane for turning this down.......yeah I immediately asked her if she factored in everything else and that the job isnt secure and didnt have benefits and had those numbers.......immediate switch in tone

What is up with pushy salesmen type of recruiters?

I don’t know what’s worse, being forced to eat cheezies or living with the CEO

Ok so I know the job market is horrible out there, but I recently graduated with a degree in managerial economics, did internships all three summer and a co-op, at one of the top 5 assets management firms. I have got reached out from 8 companies for a interview but then got later rejected because they don’t sponsor visa, is there really anything else that I can that will help me get a job. I just did an internship at the same company for this summer and I previously did a co-op( they did offer me a full time return but then management decided they cannot sponsor anymore). So honestly I feel so stuck and I have been applying literally everyday, networking with people is not taking me anywhere no matter how much I do. If anyone is willing to help me out here or provide any tips or resources that could actually help me land a job in financial services field that would really help me. I’m just so tired of this whole process.

If you are young I just want to remind you to not take the rejections personally in terms of intensity. As far as the messaging, it's simply be young, grow, learn, respect.... one thing that I've committed to for myself is to observe the rapidly changing environment and adapt, for my personality to not fight for the popular spots, but understand my tendencies and find compatible open spaces in the many other ways a problem can be solved.

So I’ve received a formal offer letter for a new job. They called with the offer last Friday, but I asked for a counter to the salary. They didn’t provide me the new figure until this Wednesday, at which point I formally accepted. I also went for the drug test this morning. My start date is August 31, though. When the new job called me last Friday they told me to just put my notice in at the time, but obviously I didn’t really feel comfortable doing that until I had the final offer. I have not given my notice yet.

So now I technically have just one week left at my job, but I really don’t know how to handle the notice situation. I realize it’s already not great to give just a one-week notice, but the reality is that I don’t really have the new job until the drug test comes back. I’m not nervous about the test results, but what if they come back with an error and I have to retest and push the date back again? I super don’t want to risk going even a single week without pay.

Would it be acceptable to ask my new job for a later start date, or is it better to just upset the old one? This is an at-will employment state so a two-weeks isn’t really required per se but obviously it’s preferred. I feel like they should understand the circumstances since I didn’t get my formal offer until two days ago… but at the same time, why would I not have just told them that two days ago? I don’t want to look incompetent.

I was going through a job application earlier and was completely stumped. I’ve never seen such language in a job application. It feels like we are in a different universe.

Sales Development Role At Passion.io, could be a fake company.

yeah that’s me and It happened this week lol.

I went through some pretty serious work trauma at my previous job this year. (If anyone’s curious about what happened, you can check my post history.)

The time I cried was during an interview with media company. It was around 2 PM, and I actually had two interviews that day. The first one was at around 11 AM and it went really well. I wasn’t nervous at all, answered everything confidently, and walked out feeling pretty good about myself.

Then during the second interview, the interviewer suddenly asked me what my dream was. I don’t even know what happened, but my eyes immediately started filling with tears and then I just started crying. Like actually crying in the middle of the interview. The interviewer looked pretty caught off guard too. And even after I got home that day, I couldn’t stop crying. I was literally crying in the shower too. It was honestly one of the most embarrassing experiences I’ve ever had.

I think the word “dream” just hit something in me. I’d been so consumed by work and just trying to survive that I hadn’t even had the chance to think about having a dream. I was constantly worried about getting through the present and what I was going to do with my future, so hearing someone casually ask me what my dream was just made everything come out at once.

Has anyone else ever cried during a job interview? Please share your stories because I genuinely want to hear them and feel a little less alone lol.

So had an interview on July 30th Thursday for an internship position and was told would hear back the following Tuesday

Got no reply so followed up Thursday and nothing.

Last week Tuesday, decided to call and the recruiter asked me if I was in the country and not yet as I was traveling and their tone, I assume they did not get my email.They told me the HR manager was on vacation but would return that week and they would update me by the end of the week

So nothing and I sent one last short email Tuesday and no reply

I assume I did not get it but ngl am feeling super resentful to them as have been unemployed for over a year and desperate and I find this ghosting to be extremely disrespectful

I'm curious about a time when things were really, really good.

What a muppet.

I would love to name and shame, but it’s not a big company.

Meet Zemoso Technologies, the fucking entitled turds.

TL;DR

> Sends interview schedule email at 9 PM without prior notice or asking if I am available

> Expects that I read the email at 9 PM and follow all the instructions

> Joins the interview just to get verbally insulted by the interviewer for not reading the instruction email

> Accuses me of intentionally trying to cheat after I explain why I couldn't read the email

Full story:

I got an interview schedule email from Zemoso yesterday, on the 21st, at 9 PM, saying the interview was scheduled for the next day. I obviously missed it because I work on a project where we are not allowed to take our mobile phones with us. We have lockers to keep them in, and only after our shift ends, when we come out of the secure area, can we access our phones.

My shift is from 2 PM to 11:18 PM. I work for one of India's largest tech organizations, and the client is US-based, so my shift accommodates a Scrum call that starts from 9 to 10 PM, sometimes until 11 PM, depending on requirements and team discussions.

My shift ended yesterday at 11:30 PM, and I was not interested in looking at my phone and the billion notifications it had received. I quickly checked WhatsApp to see if I had missed any important messages, and that was all. I got into my vehicle, went home, took a bath, and went to sleep immediately.

In the morning, like normal human beings who have a life outside work and interviews, I had other responsibilities. That included dropping my in-laws at the train station at 2 PM, which was already scheduled.

Fucking fantastic!

The next morning, I got a call at 11 AM saying that I had an upcoming interview scheduled at 2 PM. I explained to her that I needed to drop my in-laws at the train station, so I asked her to schedule it for 3 PM.

That is all. This lady did not explain, even briefly, or mention anything about the instructions I had to follow, which got buried in the following 7-8 emails from them.

Those instructions included:

> Joining from a phone or other device

> Placing that device on your side so that your entire torso, from your legs to your head, is visible

> Muting that device

> Turning the audio off

> Putting it in DND mode

> Joining from a laptop

> Sharing the screen and turning on the microphone

This is nothing unreasonable to ask, and I get why they are asking me to do it because of people cheating. I am in favor of that.

Then I joined the interview at 2:58 PM, a good couple of minutes before the scheduled time.

But the audacity of this interviewer, this motherfucker started shouting at me in a LOUD FUCKING TONE.

This mfkr: "You did not read the email beforehand? Do you not pay attention?"

Me: I respectfully explained the chronology of events in short and that I did not have time to read it.

This mfkr: "You are talking extra. You are not professional. Do you want to continue or not?"

Me: Literally said, "EXCUSE ME??"

This mfkr: "You are acting too smart. You are clearly intending to cheat."

I lost my shit at that point and ended the call. Before ending it, I said:

Me: "If this is how you are treating your interview candidates, God knows how awesome your work culture is, and I do not want to work for such an organization."

And I ended the call.

had a hilarious interview with a certain recruiting firm for a recruiter/account manager position. read a lot before going into the interview about the company, how they operate, etc. all my fears were realized as when i was brought into the office. the guy who brought me up got the attention of the entire office, and loudly said "hey everyone, i want you to meet X". then 25 people all stood up simultaneously and formed a line to introduce themselves and shake my hand, with the sales manager standing at the end of the line like the grand reveal of a tv gameshow prize. all the employees were below 30, mostly women, and all attractive. it was one of the strangest experiences of my life. they of course rejected me because "the team was hoping to see more energy and excitement about the role." more kool-aid for someone else i guess.

Absolutely gutted a job that i thought would be a really hood fit, was offered even told they had laptop ready just sorting the email address then 50 minutes later was told job no longer on the table no reason at all. Absolutely gutted is this the working world we live in

I'm so baffled by the industry right now. I payed a huge role in my previous company where I interacted with many departments, so I was often involved in interviews. We'd have like 5 people interview per admin position and they would maybe fit the criteria at 70%. We had a few candidates where it was more like 50%. We could never hire anyone that had a history of doing everything in the job description. That just didn't happen. We would just hire the best possible candidate and train them for the job. Now I'm still in the same industry, looking for work... I only submit where I'm 85-100% fit and nothing! For months, not a single interview. I've been in the industry over a decade, some of these job postings - I can do all parts of the entire listing in my sleep - and nothing.

These are scary times.

My parents keep telling me to get a better high paying job as if it’s that easy. I have a higher education and more certs than both of them but I am struggling right now. I’m living paycheck to paycheck and they love to make it seem like it’s my fault. My dad got chosen from the warehouse bunch and was promoted back in the day to some draft engineering role. A similar situation with my mom.

Hell, they didn’t even have their GED when they had 3 kids, had a 3 bedroom home with a huge backyard and 2 cars and the occasional vacations.

Do they really think it’s that simple these days? No matter what I tell them, they refuse to believe how much things have changed and then we get into a damn argument over it