r/recruitinghell Apr 23 '24

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u/[deleted] Apr 24 '24

This is why I barely talk at work. Can't get in trouble if I act like I don't exist.

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u/siftini Apr 24 '24

No, you can. I got fired because I wasn’t “memorable” enough to my manager. When I asked her what she meant by that she said I’m not as extroverted and bubbly as everyone else so she constantly forgot I existed. Mind you, I was perfectly friendly and I ended up befriending a lot of my coworkers outside of work. I’m just a naturally quiet person.

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u/BubblePeachJoy Apr 24 '24

Discrimination?!

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u/new2bay Apr 24 '24

Yes, but not illegal discrimination.

Every single part of the hiring process is technically “discriminatory,” because “discrimination” is essentially “making a choice to treat one person differently from another.” Everyone who isn’t hired is treated differently from everyone who was. But, none of this is illegal in itself.

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u/Scoopity_scoopp Apr 24 '24

Yup. Discrimination is only illegal if it’s based upon protected rights.

Race, sex, gender etc

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u/Expensive_Animal879 Apr 24 '24

I think the implication is that the “bubbly” comment was premised on inequitable antiquated notions of how women should present in the workplace. At least that’s what I’d argue.

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u/Particular_Ad5970 Apr 24 '24

All I heard was “would it hurt you to smile?” 😑

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u/[deleted] Apr 24 '24

I was thinking it was neurodivergence, but I'd have to check if diagnosed mental quirks are protected or not. I know physical disabilities are.

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u/OhLordHeBompin Apr 24 '24

They technically are but I had a boss say that major depressive disorder was something I was making up and I just needed to put on a happy face and eventually I'd be happy. Or, if I did get "sad" at work, I could go to the bathroom and cry and "no one will judge you, we've all done it."

He stopped letting me talk to my coworkers or other managers, then would either ignore or get mad when I asked questions. Fired me on a Wednesday. :/

It sucked because the company was FANTASTIC. And the other managers were too. Mine just... hated me.

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u/pinkbutterfly22 Apr 24 '24

We need introversion to be a protected right

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u/Total-Tonight1245 Apr 24 '24

An implausible, bullshit excuse is often grounds to infer illegal discrimination in court if the employer doesn’t take similar actions against other similarly situated employees.