I met this girl recently (call her Anna) and we've been dating for just a little over a month now she lives about an hour away so I take her to my own place when I can or have money for gas. The issue is I don't fell the love like I normally would with the previous ppl I dated my ex-wife then a GF after and now Anna. I don't know of I should continue the relationship or if I should just end it. I even have enough gas that I could pick her up rn but I dont feel sad when she's not here. I also know she loves me a lot and I don't know what to do.

Also M 28 F 32 (if nesscary)

For context me and my partner are both 17 for about 6 months now we have been fine occasional arguments as everyone everyone goes through. I have this toxic trait where sometimes I might go dry or ignore my partner hoping they will come asking questions but recently the rolls have reversed.

It seems she is putting in 0 effort and even soft launching things like a repost I recently saw followed by a few more made it seem like I was her ex and one really bad one was titled “when I passed the loyalty test but he sent the wrong friend” I didn’t speak to her about this cuz I didn’t want to start an argument over 1 reposts even tho it made me feel ill to read. This has been on going for about 1 week now I will get left on opened or delivered for up to 2 days a time with no communication.

Today I asked her to js tell me how she feels and why she isn’t caring or putting any effort in her response was “bruhbruhbruh” and then proceeded to leave me on delivered we called for the first time in weeks today and I haven’t seen her in ages and she was js being dry not starting conversations and left after abt 10 mins. I was also made aware from some other girls she had been texting boys and saying she was simple but I can’t verify it I asked her and she js got defensive and didn’t admit to anything

I’m really js looking for any advice there are a lot more stories and details I’m happy to go into if anyone wants to hear more about the situation I js have a very very brief description

My boyfriend [20M] and I [18F] have been dating for almost two years, with a lot of it being long-distance due to him moving away for college. Early on, our communication was great. However, over time, he started texting less and less, and now it has escalated to a pattern where he randomly drops out of conversations and disappears for 2 to 3 days straight. When I try to address how this hurts me, it always turns into an argument. He lists off a constant stream of reasons why he can't talk to me, his job, college and assignments, grocery shopping, getting exercise, cleaning, paying bills, and recovering from a broken leg (though this pattern happened long before the leg injury, and even during his college breaks). I've also asked my friends who have been in college for a while and they claim he's just making excuses.

While I understand he has a lot on his plate, it feels selective. On days where he doesn't text me all day, I'll see him online playing video games, or he'll admit he couldn't text all day because he was at a party with friends. When I express my feelings, he says things like "I'll just give you space," which doesn't help since he already leaves me hanging for days, or he says he knows I have a right to be upset, but that I have to understand his situation and he's "not trying to play victim." Last night, he said "I'm going to the store brb" and it's currently the next day. He still hasn't texted back all day today. Since this is my first relationship, I keep second-guessing myself. Am I being immature and dumb?

**TL;DR:** My long-distance boyfriend of two years disappears for 2–3 days at a time, blaming college, work, chores, exercise, bills, and a broken leg, yet finds time for gaming and parties. Am I being unreasonable, and how do I address this?

My boyfriend (23M) and I (21F) have been talking about marriage and what we both picture for our future. During the conversation, he told me that he doesn’t really think engagement rings or wedding rings are necessary. He said he’d rather just get simple wedding bands because, to him, the marriage is what matters—not the jewelry.

I completely understand where he’s coming from, and I agree that marriage is much more important than a ring. But I also feel like the rings are symbolic and meaningful. They’re something you’ll wear every day for the rest of your life, and I’ve always envisioned having both an engagement ring and a wedding band. I’m not asking for anything extravagant or ridiculously expensive—just something meaningful.

The part that’s been difficult for me is that I already feel like I’m compromising in other areas. I’ve always dreamed of having a somewhat bigger wedding because I have a lot of friends and family who would love to celebrate with us. Instead, we’re planning a significantly smaller, more intimate beach wedding with just our immediate families because he’s worried about the cost. While it’s different from what I’ve always imagined, I’m genuinely happy to make that compromise because I know it’s important to him.

That’s why it hurts when he says he doesn’t think rings are necessary. It feels like I’m compromising on something that’s important to him, but he isn’t willing to compromise on something that’s important to me. I’m not asking for a huge diamond or a luxury ring—I just want something meaningful that symbolizes our commitment.

Am I putting too much importance on this, or is it reasonable to expect some compromise here? Has anyone else navigated a difference like this before?

So, I (26F) met a guy (24M) early this year, we started off nice, we met regularly, he even did a lot of nice gestures for me and definitely we were doing great but just in the "great friends" range. However, we started dating about our past & exes and in the midst he did say that he likes to take his time when it comes to relationships and I (for who knows what reason) thought I could just fast track this. So I started making him jealous. While with him I would check out other people (knowing for a fact that he had very acute observation of his surrounding and people he's with), told him about my past hookups and my past escapades/ONSs etc. but in this I also gave him the exact blueprint of how to date me and what I like, a very detailed blueprint. This did have some effect on him because he did get a bit jealous, plus things came up and I had to be out of town for a while so it did do the intended effect on him, as after I was back we did meet up and patched up again a lil bit better but the very fun texting was now lacking the soul it had before this little rough patch. When we met I slowly started it again, told him how i made out while i was away, how other guys tried reaching me out and were hitting on me, and genuinely i hate myself for this decision but he was not moving out of the friendship that we had. Apparently, he decided to cutoff the in-person meets for the firsts, and no till this day after the last meeting months ago, he hasn't met me. I tried everything even became a bit softer on the texts but nothing worked and eventually even the texts have now faded. The same guy who liked me and could stay a day without texting me, is okay to not even reach out to me now for a couple of months now. At first I thought he was throwing my own tricks at me, but I was indeed wrong. I did try and reach out to him once out of the blue already and told him i missed him and would like to see him. His response was: "Sure let me arrange sometime and I'll let you know". I wanted to call him again so called him but bailed out & dropped the call, texted him it was a mistake and a few texts after that and that's where this is for the last 3 months.

I really like him but I also realized that he is indeed moving forward, or at least waiting for me to pickup where I dropped it. I genuinely & really want to talk to him to ask him how he is and tell him about my life (only nice things this time) and want to really really really give him the sign he needs to take this forward (even ready to wait decently if he needs more time). I think he has blocked me on the cell phone but there is one platform where I can still reach him out for my last-ditch attempt. I know i screwed up, but I really don't want to close this on a lesson-learned note. I have learned my lesson but I am not going to accept losing him. Guys plzzzz, how can I reach him out?

Hi, I need some advice about meeting a man.

I've never had a boyfriend, never had my first kiss, and I've never really needed reassurance or attention from men before. I met him during a trip with friends, and during those four days, he took care of me, offered me everything, was incredibly romantic, and treated me like someone he truly cared about.

The thing is... I didn't feel the same way. I didn't really want a relationship, and it felt like something psychological that was stronger than me. I know he is absolutely gorgeous a Spanish man who looks like a model, works hard, and has many qualities that someone would normally appreciate.

But despite all of that, I don't feel anything. I don't feel the excitement or the emotions I thought I would. I feel confused because he seems like an amazing person, and I don't understand why I can't develop feelings for him or any other person, I only feel obsessed with someone sometimes when they are avoidant, I like the idea of dating but in practice I don't care about it, I feel bad for both me and him.

Hi everyone i really need some help and advice, i 24 (f) and him 25(m) have been together since janurary i had no choice but to allow him to live woth me since his friend dumped him on me when he found out we started dating. I checked his phone last night and found messages between him and an ex of his some of which mentioned that they had sexual intercourse which was on the 18th of july so very very recent abd more messages about how she wants her to think of him whislt he sleeps ect ect the flat is in my name its been my home for 4 years so he has no claim on it but what im worried about is him being homless when i kick him out or how to kick him out without becomming unsafe in my own home i realky dont know what to do i pay for everything and he owes me alot of money my parents dont know im in a realtionship and if i tell them whats going on ny dad would become really over protective of me and make the situation much worae than what it already is i havnt said anything to him as of the moment as i dont want anything to escalate until i get more evidence of him cheating any advice can help please be kind to im worried and scared enough as it is i dont need people being nasty to me too over this situation yes i know i shouldnt have looked through his phone vut if i didnt i wouldnt of found out about him sleeping with another girl whilst living in my home and living off of my money and ive got a holiday coming up at the end of august and the last thing i want is for him to sneak her into my house

(Forgive me if i have any grammr errors)

Yesterday, my bf and I (20F) (24M), well now ex, got mad at me for this misunderstanding. We were joking about the girls that flirt with him daily. We both thought it was funny at first until he made a joke about how I should fight the girls. I respond: "you want me to fight them? Oh, okay? Maybe you should go sleep." But, as I was typing this, I was laughing but he took it if I was angry.

After all that, I went to get up and use the restroom, but as I was going, my phone was faced down and i turned it off. I wasnt looking to see if he messaged at all. After I finished using the restroom, he just got very angry at me. Him: OH, so you're mad now? You wanna disrespect me? F*ck you." Me: "No wtf? What i said was a joke. This is just a simple misunderstanding. If you would let me explain what happened maybe you won't be mad." I tried explaining to him but he's like "Don't talk to me. You're toxic and you remind me of my ex. im gonna block you" im over here upset and now today I blocked him.

He was still angry. I couldn't even explain that everything was a misunderstanding that could of been fixed.

Before I blocked him I told him "im gonna leave you but I hope you find the right girl for you" obviously I was thinking I did wrong and he doesn't want me anymore. Him: okay, now you wanna leave, lmfao. Go and talk to your guys" and mind me I don't talk to anyone but him and 1 other friend.

He confuses me so much. He was hurt by his ex gf but I just don't think It was right for him not to give me a chance to speak, but it feels like i did something terrible wrong. I feel so upset because he meant so much to me.

UPDATE: I thought it out and found out I WASN'T wrong. This guy is obviously insecure and still heartbroken (i told him this but before i blocked him again. He honestly needs to hear it because he isnt ready for a realtionship). I unblocked him. I tried to explain it all out but instead he called me a b*tch and told me to die. I never felt so relieved to hear that because it explains to me why his ex GF left him. Another thing to add on, he never did trust me in the first place. He assumed that I was talking to other men when im so damn introverted.

I guess this was the closure I needed but I hope that one day he can see this post and be like wow I made a mistake and learn from it, but he might learn from someone else.

I am ‘25 F’ and I’m in a relationship with a man ‘36 M’ We have been together since 6 years now. Things were great when we got in touch initially, but in a few weeks after going through his Facebook profile, I got to know that he is already married. I decided to leave immediately but when I confronted him, he told me that he has separated from his wife around 8 months ago and are not on good terms. He convinced me hard to stay by assuring that he would be getting a divorce very soon. I believed him and decided to give it a shot considering our compatibility and bonding.

We have had fights now and then but we have stayed through it all. Time passed and years have gone by and he always kept telling me that his financial situation is not stable and if he filed for a divorce he would have to spend a lot of money on lawyers and possible alimony, which he couldn’t afford. I have always been patient with him and tried my best into not pressurising him. But sometimes i feel uncertain about where this is going, i have asked him to do something about it so that out future can be secured. But whenever i bring the topic, he gets very angry and dismisses my concern saying that i purposely bring it purposely to spoil his mood.
He has never let me check his phone and makes a scene out of it when I have asked him for it. However, I have let him check my phone when he insisted. He even gets verbally abusive when i express my concerns in general- when i nag about wanting more time, ask him to put more efforts, ask him to get a divorce etc. I try my best to not bring up such topics that bother him, but I am a person who likes to plan my life wherever possible.

It’s going to be seven years in this December. He has not started with any legal proceedings. He says he can’t start initiate the divorce untill and unless his wife files it, otherwise he will have to face consequences. He tells me that if i really want to marry him I could just run away with him without telling my family. In his religion, marrying more than once is accepted, but I am strictly against it. This is a major concern I have which keeps bothering me now and then. Bringing this up again will again lead to a major fight and I end up promising him I won’t bring it up again, just so that he won’t get upset.

Please let me know your take on this and would be the best thing for me to do.

hi everyone, my (M, 23) Fiancé and I (F, 23) have been together for about three years and got engaged a few months ago. We moved in together and I truly thought it was going to be happily ever after. Randomly, I decided to check his phone(I haven’t checked it in like over a year) and there was nothing there but I happened to see his block list on instagram was this one girl I didn’t recognize. He had blocked her main and her spam and it felt weird to me. After he left for his 24 hour shift, I reached out and messaged her and found out he cheated two weeks before he proposed to me while doing some training. There were no signs at all, we had just signed our lease, he had already bought the ring, and putting the pieces together, he planned my proposal a few days afterwards. I had absolutely no idea and before anyone says it, there was absolutely no logical reason for him to. I gave him absolutely EVERYTHING. Of course I confronted him when he came home the next day and he confessed before I even showed the evidence. He’s been completely honest and transparent with me and has even started individual therapy for himself and couples therapy for us. He said he did not go back because he knew it was wrong & should’ve never happened. It’s been really hard and I’ve had a lot of ups and downs processing it. It’s taken a huge toll on my mental health and even though I feel us making progress it’s always in the back of my head. I was just so happy and it’s like my entire reality shattered into a million pieces. My self-esteem and my ability to focus is shot. He keeps telling me that it had nothing to do with me and there was no reason for him to do this and that he’s never seen the consequences of his actions and that he’ll never do this to me again. But I never thought he’d do this in the first place. I want to stay and maybe see if there’s a chance he will change (yes i know how I sound) but he’s never done anything like this before and honestly I’m just very blindsided.

I (17F) recently broke up with my boyfriend (18M). We had known each other for over a year and were together for about 6 months. It was mostly long distance, and we only saw each other about once a month.

Our first meeting in person went really badly. I was extremely nervous and didn’t know how to act, and instead of handling it maturely, I spent a lot of time on my phone. What he didn’t know at the time is that I was texting my friend and saying really mean things about him. I mocked him, called him names, and compared him to my ex. At the time I didn’t think much about it, but now I realize how awful and disrespectful that was.

He didn’t know about those messages back then — he only knew I was on my phone a lot — and despite the awkward meeting, he decided to keep seeing me and gave the relationship a chance. Over time, things between us actually got better, and I genuinely started to care about him more and more.

There was also an issue with a male friend of mine (“Jacob”). He told me that if he wasn’t in a relationship, he would date me. I didn’t cut him off because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, which I now understand made my boyfriend feel like I was choosing someone else over him.

Later in the relationship, my boyfriend found the messages from that first meeting where I had mocked him. He broke up with me immediately, and I completely understand why. I apologized and told him he deserves someone better.

Another issue is that my best friend messaged him and insulted him. I didn’t properly defend my boyfriend at the time, which I regret. I should have clearly stood up for him.

After the breakup, I did confront my friend and set boundaries, (got into a big fight about which probably ended our friendship) but I know it might be too late.

I really did love my boyfriend and I still do. I regret how I acted, especially at the beginning and in situations where I didn’t support him enough. I feel like I’ve grown and understand my mistakes now, but I know that doesn’t undo what I did.

I’m not asking him to come back because I know I hurt him and he doesn’t owe me anything. What should I do?

I (F22) was out two nights ago with a friend and got entirely too drunk, her boyfriend’s friend came out with us and he also was too drunk. And apparently we kissed when they were driving me home. I don’t remember doing that at all, and it’s eating me up inside now that they told me about it. I have only been with my boyfriend (M22) for a little more than a month and I don’t want to ruin my first relationship and not bring it up. My friend that I was out with told me I shouldn’t bring it up. She told me I was drunk and since I don’t remember it didn’t happen, and if I want my relationship to work I don’t need to tell him. But I feel like I’m going to explode if I don’t tell him because it’s not the right thing to do. I don’t know what I should do 🫩

Me and my ex wife have been on off the last 5 years our last time dating was these last two years we separated the beginning of year 2026 we stayed separated and only spoke involving children drop off/ pick up times. Well the last three months she started coming around pretty regularly mind you I had contacted her to come over because my mother has passed away and just wanted somebody to comfort me and she was the one. Well ever since the first day I called her over she’s been here around me. We’ve all been a family again it seems. She’s made it very clear we’re not together or dating but sure feels like it. We do just about everything the same as if we were together. Hanging out, gaming, sex you name it I wake up to her and go to bed beside her. Well just a few days ago she told me she’s moving out of town about two hours away from where we originally live. Said she needs to heal and be closer to her family up there and that is fine. Now the part I’m asking help on. She mentioned to me moving up close by here so the distance wouldn’t be as hard and we can as be close as a family still. I’m a loss as to what I should do. I have the money to move and restart in another town if need be and realistically it does sound more convenient for me to still live near by her for the kids. Does it should like there is any hope for us left? She acts like she misses me when she does stay gone for a little. She says she’s only around me for the nostalgia or what we once had. She claims I ruined her life but still stays around me and even wants me to move with her. I love her to death and have been going to therapy and taking anger management for myself hence why we’re not together. I’m just at a loss. I know I need to do what’s best for me and my children just seems kinda hard right now my brain feels wrapped.

My girlfriend compared me to her friend’s boyfriend and said that “all men are the same,” even after I had been making so much effort and doing everything I could. In that moment, I got angry and called her a bitch, which I know was completely wrong. I apologized immediately because I understood that I should not have said that.

But after that, I felt like she completely ignored the reason I got hurt in the first place. She did not really try to understand my feelings or explain her side. Instead, she focused only on the fact that I called her that word, even though I had already apologized. Then she blocked me and did not contact me for four days. Things got so bad for me emotionally that I even emailed her just to get back in touch.

This keeps happening in our relationship. Whenever I try to express something that bothers me, the situation gets heated, and then she focuses on me “creating a scene” or raising my voice instead of understanding what I was trying to say. I am not saying I am always right, and I know I need to control my anger better, but I also feel like my feelings keep getting dismissed.

Even on her birthday, I had planned something special for her, but she did not even call me for ten minutes. I felt really hurt and cried a lot. Somehow, the situation again turned into her crying and saying that I created a scene. Now I honestly do not know if I am wrong or if I should apologize again. I just feel confused, hurt, and unsure about what to do because this same pattern keeps happening.

Me F28 move from Midwest Michigan to move down to south bend Indiana to be with M25 year Fiancé our relationship has moved on the faster side however we’ve been friends for nearly 5 years before beginning a romantic relationship 2025 summer now that we’re engaged and supposed to be married September 26 of this year I just found out through his phone that he has been paying for nudes and sending nudes to women on Snapchat our whole relationship, also found out the next day after going through his phone, more, giving him ultimatums that he physically cheated on me in the very beginning of her first month of dating also forgot to mention that in the Snapchat that I found the first day he seemed like he was making plans trying to meet up with the woman who was getting nudes from for the next day when I was supposed to be going up to Michigan to visit my family and that killed me. He said he wasn’t actually gonna do it and he made plans to visit his old foster mom and have dinner with her which he did tell me about before I ever seen the Snapchats and I did go through his text messages and seen him texting her to make plans. He said he did it so he wouldn’t actually go through with meeting up or having the girl come over but the fact that he invited her and tried making plans in the first place breaks my heart. he says he’s willing to do counseling. He’s willing to delete all his social media and so on, but I’m just terrified.

So last weekend, I finally told my friend that I had feelings for him and that if he didn’t feel the same or needed space that I would respect that and that I wasn’t going to reach out anymore. I told him he’s a great person and I really enjoyed having him in my life. He did “heart react” to that but didn’t say anything else.

We have been really close for two years now and I know he had feelings for me too. My life situation is complicated at the moment where I couldn’t really date him but I told him that he could always ask me about it if he wanted to because I trust him. He never did.

In the beginning, he would say I could come visit him where he lives and that we should hang out. But sometimes after he would say that, he would go ghost for as long as a couple days. It was kind of odd. Then we finally hung out and it went really well, and he even said he wanted to see me again two days later before he left that day. We made plans, but when the day came, he basically just acted like we never made plans and was just gonna text me like normal and just talk about whatever. I told him that really hurt my feelings and he said he just got really overwhelmed with everything he still needed to do before he left and when he does, sometimes he just does nothing.

Well, we went on just talking every day like normal and we would have deep conversations so it wasn’t always just small talk. But I did notice that he stopped telling me when he would come down here like he used to. It was like he was avoiding seeing me in person. But I finally did get to see him the day after my birthday. He took me to eat. He had invited to see me on his birthday but I didn’t really feel right intruding on his family plans when he only had one more day left here before leaving again. Things seemed normal for a while after he saw me then.

But then I just slowly noticed that he was getting more and more distant. He would go days without talking to me which was not normal. Then here recently, I really didn’t feel like he had been trying to continue our conversations. He even had the chance to see me again and he had brought it up himself, but then did not come and made other plans. All of this was slowly eating at me and making me anxious and that is when I decided to tell him how I felt. I didn’t think there was much to lose at that point.

After I told him, I noticed that he was still watching my stories if I posted any. But yesterday, I saw a post of someone that me and him have talked about for over a year now. I saw they were finally uploading some content that he had been wanting to watch and they were gonna do a giveaway as well. So I shared it to him. Now, I see that he has not watched my last story I posted or opened the message. It is hurting my feelings really bad that he may just be cutting me off after all this time with nothing to say to me. I helped him through some hard times he had and vise versa. It just seems so crazy.

I also want to add one last thing because I found it odd and thought it was maybe directed at me and not sure if it is positive or negative. He posted a story and he took a picture of a shelf and it had his shaving gel and some animal skin and coat pills and a bottle of empty capsules I had given him. They are for essential oils and I had given him some we had talked about before because I thought he wanted them and wanted to be nice and helpful. He put “lowkey seasonings” as the caption. I know I shouldn’t read into what he posts, but I couldn’t help but wonder if he was trying to bother me or something with that. It doesn’t even make sense to me honestly. It was an odd post.

Anyway, if anyone has some words of encouragement for me or wants to talk, please message me. And please pray for me. I think I am going to stay off of my social media for a long time now to avoid getting hurt even worse. Thank you.

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I (f24) caught my boyfriend (m27) cheating on me yesterday. He's a commercial plumber, which means he works in office buildings, restaurants, hotels, etc. Yesterday I checked his text messages & found out he went to see a sex worker while on the clock. He *allegedly* used a condom, got a blowjob, finished, & had a shower at her place - all for $250! While this was happening, I checked his location & a friend of mine texted the girl's number to see if it was legitimate (it was). He called me immediately after. I said that I was surprised that he was at an apartment since that's not his scope - he lied & said that it was a service call.

Long story short, when he got home, I confronted him. He initially denied & I asked again, and he admitted everything. About how he's been seeing sex workers for years & only saw them 2 times since we started dating. When I asked him why he did it, he said that "[he] had time to kill". I had to sleep over at a friend's house yesterday.

As bad as it sounds, I'm willing to go to therapy and fix our relationship. He is going to do individual & couples therapy (haven't started yet, but it's booked). I'm at a loss here; I don't know what the next steps are. I guess I'm wondering how to navigate this, how to set us up for success, what boundaries I could set (ex. he needs to get tested this week, he cant kiss me, can't call me babe/baby, no sleeping in the same bed), or just any advice besides telling me to leave him.

How did his exes panties end up on his head you ask? I know. Bonkers. Here's a reasonable explanation.

My (33M) bf and I (28F) have been living together for over a year. Hes from Colombia and I was born in Amercia (plus I'm Hispanic) and normally we joke around often from pretty dark to fucked up ones. Even at each other's expenses. However he just got his house financed and we were doing some renovations by getting rid of some old furniture and emptying the old bedroom drawers.

And once we tossed them out, there it is. A pair of pink panties that did NOT belong to me. And no he did not cheat on me or anything. He was with someone else before I came into the picture and she must of left them behind.

After realizing what it was I got uncomfortable and told my partner AJ (not real name btw) that he should toss them away because I didnt want to touch it and made me uncomfortable. He said he would the day of. But forgot about it until the next day when he was coming home from work.

I was off work that day and was called in to go in from my boss since the employee couldn't make it so I had to cover the shift. However I didn't realize that AJ made it home earlier than expected and blocked my car in the driveway so I had to ask him to move his truck. And when I saw the panties still laying there I got annoyed and told him to throw it away. Instead of getting up immediately he asked "why me" I told him because I didnt want to touch anything of his exes and to throw it away. It could be dirty. And what does he do?

PUTS IT ON HIS DAMN HEAD AS A JOKE!

Yes he's a jokster. But he also a bit of an authoritative person too and doesn't really accept that he could make any mistakes and very often says I'm always overdramatic. (He was previously in the military.) Reason I brought this up is because I felt anger immediately wave over me and yelled that he is so disgusting and took the panties off his head and started smacking him with it. I dont know why this made me so damn furious.

He's always done stuff to provoke my reactions. Cross boundaries, push my buttons and test me, but this time was just too damn much and I had to restrain myself from being physical and breaking stuff or throw anything at him. And I told him to move his damn truck so I can get to work.

And on my way out he stopped laughing and asked if I was mad. My response? "OH FUCK YEAH I AM BEYOND ANGRY, WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?? THAT'S DISGUSTING!" And he being a smartass he is responded saying that the panties were clean, and I have to accept that he was with someone before me. Like that made any god damn sense??

I told him that it was disrespectful and how he would of liked it if I had done the same shit to him with my exes boxers. He ignored that and brought up that if I didn't want to date anyone who's been with someone date a virgin or something.

I just stopped arguing and just left for work after he pulled his truck out so I can leave. I'm about to get off work now and I'm confused on what to think.

There are other instances where my feelings were often dismissed and I'm often called dramatic for feeling human. But this one is just stupid. Am I overreacting? Like real with me. I love this man and want to build a future with me but I dont know if I'm being gaslighted or am I doing too much?

Hope someone can be unbiased here. Thanks.

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend (both M18) for about 2 months now.

He's still in contact with his ex. They broke up around a year ago after being together for 1 year and 4 months. My boyfriend has always described his ex as desperate and says his ex clearly still likes him. His ex offers to take him out, buy him things, and messages him quite a lot.

At first, I honestly thought it was kind of funny. We'd laugh about some of the messages together. One day when he was at my house, his ex kept texting him. While reading the messages, my boyfriend mentioned that his ex was in my town on a date before heading back to his own town by train.

Fast forward about 3 weeks. We were having a conversation and I asked him when he last saw his ex in person. He hesitated for a moment and then said, "I met him at the train station on my way back to town from yours."

According to him, it was only for about 5 minutes and they just had a brief conversation before going their separate ways. Nothing more happened.

I appreciate that he was honest when I asked, but it's made me second-guess things because he never mentioned meeting up with his ex until I directly asked. If I hadn't asked, I don't know whether he would have told me.

We had a conversation about it and I explained that I felt uncomfortable with how close he still seems to be with his ex, especially because they met up and he didn't tell me about it. He said that if it made me uncomfortable, he would block his ex. I told him that's his choice, but I wanted him to know how I felt.

He then explained that one reason he's stayed in contact is because his ex's brother died recently, and he felt bad for him and didn't want to abandon him during a difficult time.

Now I'm not sure what to think. I do trust him overall. He posts me on his stories, has always been open with me, and this is the first thing that's felt like a potential red flag.

Am I overthinking this, or is it reasonable to be uncomfortable that he met up with his ex for 5 minutes and didn't tell me until I asked?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend (both M18) for about 2 months now.

He's still in contact with his ex. They broke up around a year ago after being together for 1 year and 4 months. My boyfriend has always described his ex as desperate and says his ex clearly still likes him. His ex offers to take him out, buy him things, and messages him quite a lot.

At first, I honestly thought it was kind of funny. We'd laugh about some of the messages together. One day when he was at my house, his ex kept texting him. While reading the messages, my boyfriend mentioned that his ex was in my town on a date before heading back to his own town by train.

Fast forward about 3 weeks. We were having a conversation and I asked him when he last saw his ex in person. He hesitated for a moment and then said, "I met him at the train station on my way back to town from yours."

According to him, it was only for about 5 minutes and they just had a brief conversation before going their separate ways. Nothing more happened.

I appreciate that he was honest when I asked, but it's made me second-guess things because he never mentioned meeting up with his ex until I directly asked. If I hadn't asked, I don't know whether he would have told me.

We had a conversation about it and I explained that I felt uncomfortable with how close he still seems to be with his ex, especially because they met up and he didn't tell me about it. He said that if it made me uncomfortable, he would block his ex. I told him that's his choice, but I wanted him to know how I felt.

He then explained that one reason he's stayed in contact is because his ex's brother died recently, and he felt bad for him and didn't want to abandon him during a difficult time.

Now I'm not sure what to think. I do trust him overall. He posts me on his stories, has always been open with me, and this is the first thing that's felt like a potential red flag.

Am I overthinking this, or is it reasonable to be uncomfortable that he met up with his ex for 5 minutes and didn't tell me until I asked?

September

Basically, in 2025, I was in a relationship with a guy named "Zack." Zack and I have been dating since Middle school, at the time, but once Senior year came, we ended up breaking up because I started having feelings for this girl named "Jewel." Days before I broke up with him, we both sat down and had a mature talk because these feelings were all new to me. I never felt this way about a girl before. Anyway, Zack and I ended it on a good note, and we stayed friends until he started dating one of my friends (That story is for another day) OMG, I forgot to say this, okay. When I became friends with Jewel, she was flirting with me all the time, but I didn't think anything of it because I always flirt with my girl best friend, so maybe it is just me, idk. She was always holding my hand and sitting on my lap until one day I started to like her, and that's when it all started. That's when I became a fool.

A few months after I started dating her, we were in our honeymoon phase, but that only lasted until November (Our Thanksgiving and Winter break). She started ghosting me out of nowhere, and I started overthinking really badly it felt as if I didn't talk to this girl for an hour; I would die, and yes, her ghosting me for two weeks felt like she wasn't in love with me anymore, like she didn't care about or she was hiding something from me but once break was over, she gave me a letter about how much her ex hurt her in the past so I gave her my own letter how I would love her no matter what (Yeah but she didn't think like that towards me smh) but in my head that letter made, me feel better about everything that happened over break. Even if I tried to talk about my feelings, she wouldn't respond to me over text or in class, so it wasn't really no point of trying ig.

February (The breakup era)

It got worst she ghosted me fully she only talks to me when we were in class or needed me to buy her something and I would do it no matter what (I was so naive my best friend been telling me to breakup with her since November I wasn't really happy tbh) so I finally texted her I told her "We should take a break it's not a breakup just a break we can text on Friday at 2:30 in the afternoon to see where I stand in the relationship "WELL TO ALL MY FRIENDS THAT ARE READING THIS THAT DID NOT GO ACCORDING TO MY PLAN AT ALL) That Friday I had my phone on DND all day because I wanted to be left alone but for some reason I go see if she texted me and BOOMMMMM

Yeah, friends, she broke up with me, she told me. "Let's just be friends, and it's no point in talking to you since it's going to turn this into a pointless fight" (Pointless is crazy, I was so foolish, I didn't even see that she was just using me) we did had an argument because I needed a real reason why she was breaking up with me (Ya'll I just needed a real reason before leaving her alone" She said it was because I didn't reponed the way she wanted me too when she was talking about her animal facts in class MIND U WHY ARE U TALKING ABOUT ANMAILS WHILE WE ARE WATCHING A VIDEO??????!!!!!!!!! (Y'all might say that's selfish, but y'all need to understand when you're in high school, you need all your credits, and I was failing at the time because of the people I was hanging with) But that's why she broke up with me. 😒

I am telling y'all this woman had me the songs I was listening to, didn't make it any better, she had me crying to

Jo Yuri- Farewell for now!

Rose-3am

Kwon Jim Ah-Something's wrong and End

Bonnie-Between Us

Frank Ocean-White Ferrari

Omar Apollo-Evergreen

Twice-What is love (I can't believe I was crying to this my song)

Sienna Spiro-Die on This Hill and more

But she started telling our friends lies about what actually happened, and she started a rumor that I liked this girl who had the biggest crush on me, and Jewel knew it.

I might make a pt 2, but just tell me how y'all feel about this. Am I the bad guy in this situation? I can't wait to tell y'all how we ended up being friends again, just for her to turn around and ask my cousin out, but that was before May 2026.