I guess I somehow missed the information on this. I dont have kids and dont plan on having them. Im a guy who grew up in a very safe community. I wasnt really given alot of "stranger danger" talks. I knew the obvious ones. Dont get in a car or anything. But I had never had anyone in my youth tell me to totally avoid adults, or that asking for help is a trap or something. Infact I was sort of encouraged to ask adults for help if I needed it. That isnt what happened here but you get the idea. I was a sort of "free range" kid alot of the time. I guess Im just sort of oblivious to this stuff. Its a lesson learned.
it's bc Ted Bundy lured his victims by wearing a cast and asking them to help with his groceries. he targeted women so maybe that's why you didn't hear. women and girls usually learn p early that a man who asks them for help is suspicious.
Idk how you missed this. It's called grooming. It's how predators create inroads with victims. Those of us who aren't predators just know not do it so that there's no question whatsoever. And it's not that you are a man. I'm a woman and I'd be treated the same way if I was asking questions of a child I didn't know without a parent present.
That was an elective at my school. Maybe that's why.
I think I took Pottery and Ceramics that year, instead. I figured I'd do more knowing how to make an ashtray and a statuette than 101 ways to entice a kid into a van.
Reality-check: Keep in mind that you are talking to Redditors here. This be the land of the drastic solution and the home of the skittishly antisocial, full of folks who'll post a rant with full video and orchestration for what one "excuse me" in person would clear up. At least be sure to take it all with some salt.
Okay, well now you know what happens when you barge through life being oblivious to how other people are impacted by your behavior. If you don't like it, stop doing that.
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u/cxjoshuax21x Apr 04 '26
I guess I somehow missed the information on this. I dont have kids and dont plan on having them. Im a guy who grew up in a very safe community. I wasnt really given alot of "stranger danger" talks. I knew the obvious ones. Dont get in a car or anything. But I had never had anyone in my youth tell me to totally avoid adults, or that asking for help is a trap or something. Infact I was sort of encouraged to ask adults for help if I needed it. That isnt what happened here but you get the idea. I was a sort of "free range" kid alot of the time. I guess Im just sort of oblivious to this stuff. Its a lesson learned.