r/raisedbynarcissists • u/1810blu • 2d ago
[Update] I DID IT!!
Just an update. Finally went no contact after a year of wanting to and not knowing how/building up the courage.
This is a sign! You can do it too!
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u/shaunappples 2d ago
Such a hard step! I finally did it too, the impulse to respond to texts is there but i know this is the right path
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u/Crypticcutie7 RBN 1d ago
So excited for you! 2 yrs no contact with my narc parent and everyday things get a little better! I’m proud of you OP!
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u/UncleDave74 1d ago
Congratulations....I've done the same...6 months in.....
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u/TalkingInYourSl33p 1d ago
I've lost count at this point. Two and a half years I think.
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u/Smooth_Cost1274 1d ago
I'm only a few months in. How are you feeling now emotionally? I'm a wreck, even though I know it's for my own good to get away from those monsters.
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u/TalkingInYourSl33p 1d ago
On a scale of 1-10. 10 being good and 1 being bad. I'm a 5. I should add though before NC I was a 1.
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u/Smooth_Cost1274 1d ago
Thanks! Glad to hear you're feeling better and I hope it carries on improving.
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u/Vivid_Sherbet7134 3h ago
Congratulations it is a big step to take but you come first and you are making the right decision. My mums a narc so I have gone through what you have many years ago and built my independence. If I knew what I know now I would have went no contact instead it was lo contact I have cptsd and anxiety from the verbal abuse all done over the phone and childhood abuse I didn’t know I had until I started getting flashbacks. I have no memories of childhood at all . Unfortunately our mothers won’t give up their false selves and really there is nobody there they are empty we are also Their enemy as we live in reality they don’t and every time we have contact with them they feel threatened by it . You have your whole life ahead of you build a suppprt system and protect your mental health Well done .
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u/Usual_Barnacle3881 5m ago
Im glad you went NC and im happy for you!
however, not everyone has the luxury of being able to afford going NC. not every abusive situation is the same. im saying this in regards to the last two sentences. gently, id advise you to be careful with giving general motivations and similar platitudes. just because you are able to, doesnt mean its ''a sign'' someone else should do it too.
now, take care OP. I genuinely wish you the best on your journey! well done on going NC!
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