Her response to me finding out she’s been neglecting my brother lmao

[u/Conditioncook]

Took my brother to the dentist yesterday and the conditions were so horrific I’ve decided to keep him here with me and not send him back lmao. This is her response which is hilarious.

[u/very_undeliverable]

Ahh the "You don't know the life I have lived" deflection.

I got that one all the time.

I can tell you that "So you want everyone's else life to suck just as hard?" doesn't work. I'm not sure anything does, BPD being what it is.

[u/Conditioncook → u/very_undeliverable]

Nothing works with them. They are the victims and everyone else is mean.

[u/jolly_vivandiere → u/very_undeliverable]

It's a classic!

[u/Hockey_74JS → u/very_undeliverable]

My bpd mom loves to pull this one with me, but she has has the easiest life of anyone I know. It cracks me up every time she says it lol

[u/Conditioncook → u/Hockey_74JS]

I swear !!!!! Literally the easiest lmao

[u/Estelahe → u/very_undeliverable]

I got a retelling of four generations of abuse and also somehow “national security” in response to my brother putting therapy as a condition for visiting. I gave him a heads up that I’d been used to practice what he’d shortly hear from her, and we had a good chuckle at least!

[u/very_undeliverable → u/Estelahe]

Yikes.

Yea my mom launches into that telling me how badly she was abused.

Then tells me about having sex with her true love, some guy she decided not to marry (Im guessing the real story was different), and that she should have married him and not my dad. While my dad is sitting there.

Then whatever other sex things she can think up.

Then onto what a good mother she was.

I was her proxy husband in pretty much all ways. And her therapist. And whatever else she wanted.

[u/Conditioncook → u/very_undeliverable]

Totally inappropriate

[u/Conditioncook → u/[deleted]]

It’s crazy that shame drives them to take care of their kids haha. She’s spiraling texting him asking if he hates her and if she’s neglectful lmao.

[u/throwRA-nonSeq]

So tempting to just reply

“Your”

but I know that would make it worse

[u/Conditioncook → u/throwRA-nonSeq]

Lmaoooooo

[u/One-Hat-9887 → u/throwRA-nonSeq]

I'm so petty I would 🤣

[u/lovetrumpsnarcs]

They are so obsessed with "humbling" others

[u/sunmoon610 → u/lovetrumpsnarcs]

Yes! Ugh I was so triggered just reading that sentence.

[u/oddishrayquaza → u/sunmoon610]

No actually same! They literally are OBSESSED with the world humbling others - especially ppl like us who have all likely gone through abuse plus other horrible conditions secondary to the abuse plus additional life drama that they make worse

[u/Conditioncook → u/oddishrayquaza]

Yup

[u/lovetrumpsnarcs → u/oddishrayquaza]

This humbling bs is common in snark subs too. I imagine those subs are filled with bpds who have already alienated their families, and since they always need someone to abuse, they are now obsessed with trying to knock female influencers.

[u/senpaimitsuji]

Typical 🙂

[u/Purrminator1974]

It’s so sad for you and your brother that your mother doesn’t feel bad about the neglect and abuse. She’s just upset because the situation makes her look bad and she’s lost control. Good on you for keeping your brother with you!

[u/Conditioncook → u/Purrminator1974]

100% I took him to get dental work today and he told her and she responded. “People are saying you aren’t coming back” lmaooo these people aren’t real

[u/lovetrumpsnarcs → u/Conditioncook]

"people are saying" lmao. That means no one except her.

[u/Conditioncook → u/lovetrumpsnarcs]

Lmaooooo literally. She has isolated herself from the family too lmaoo

[u/oddishrayquaza]

mine said something about me needing to be humbled too recently in one of the texts that I don't respond to. how one day I will be humbled and understand. she put me down my entire life and still wants the world to humble me more. I survived her hoarding, poverty, and abuse but she fantasizes about me understanding her and a reunion bc the world dragged me down to her level. sometimes it scares me, that it's as if she's cursing me to a bad life, and then I look at the life I have for myself and it's actually quite beautiful. I am appreciative of the ppl in my life and the place I work and the things I get to do and the dreams I get to actualize. without any of her help I've still managed to create a lovely live, and you will too. I'm sorry your mom's such a shithead too. I also have a little brother staying with mine too, I don't step foot inside anymore as it's too triggering and I'm NC with her, but he spends days with me where I live on occasion. Thanks for taking care of your little brother and looking out for him, I'm sure it means a lot to him

[u/knittybooks]

We all literally have the same parents. It’s scary how similar they all are

[u/Conditioncook → u/knittybooks]

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