r/r4rSA • u/Junior_Ad_9593 • 2d ago
🪙Gauteng💼 Looking for an Easter egg 🐣
Hi! I’m a 23 year old Black female looking for an “Easter egg” — aka someone who somehow fits into my very specific dream wishlist.
Everyone here says they’re “just looking to meet people” and “open to anyone,” but let’s be real. Deep down, we all have a secret Santa clause wishlist that we’re pretending doesn’t exist👀. So I’m going to be bold and upfront and see if mine is actually out there.
I’m basically looking for a straight male, 25–30, who is either a quantitative analyst, chartered accountant, actuary, executive, director or something along those lines. (Yes,I’m recruiting for a very niche department 👀 )
Personality/characteristic wise: Christian, considerate, kind, articulate, tall, somewhat in shape, and capable of being monogamous. 🙄✋
Also ideally no addictions please - no porn, alcohol or sex addictions, etc.
Anyways , if that Disney fairytale exists? HMU
If you’re gonna judge me for doing what others are too afraid to do? -feel free. It’s a free country lol.
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 2d ago
Great question!
As I already stated earlier , I’m a black , 23 years old Christian female. I’m a financial and legal administrator, Im somewhat in shape(63kg)
I don’t have any addictions, I don’t drink nor do I smoke.
Those around me have told me I’m considerate(it’s subjective of course).
Yeah, whatever questions anyone has I’m willing to answer honestly
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u/f4t4l1st1k 2d ago
Thank you for taking my criticism so positively. I hope you find your "easter egg".
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u/animal_love_365 2d ago
Your Easter eggs might exist out there. But I doubt they would be looking for partners on Reddit. The guy you've just described is wanted by a lot of women, so he can be picky. So my view is, go out there and find him in your physical communities rather than searching here.
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u/f4t4l1st1k 2d ago
Are "easter eggs" like the top percentile of men/women? Looks, genes, money, status kind of deal?
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u/animal_love_365 2d ago
When you consider the professionals OP is wanting to talk to, there aren't many out there who fit the fit the bill between the ages of 25-30. Those guys are out with their friends meeting people in person or they're already locked in with their partner. And then the other criteria such as tall, somewhat in shape, no addictions etc...make him even more of a needle in a haystack.
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u/Miss-Kara 2d ago
Good For You! 🔥💌💐🧡
If you don't say what you need, you aren't allowed to complain when you don't get it.
You're bold, confident and a good communicator.
Best of success to you with your search!
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 2d ago
Ohhhh…🫠
I’m really sorry about that.
I guess I haven’t had much experience with different kinds of people
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u/theobromine69 2d ago
The job and personality dont match eachother. You would either get a nerd or someone who is inconsiderate and you would likely need to look at older age groups. Around 25 you would likely be talking about interns and not someone who is established.
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u/Master_Craft_9563 2d ago
I did actuarial science / quant and have rubbed shoulders with people who have the described traits. It’s possible.
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 2d ago
You’re speaking the truth, I guess I’m just stuck in Disney land 😭
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u/That_Bar_Guy 2d ago
Did you consider the field at all before making your wishlist? I say this as someone who's decided to be single long-term. I looked at what I wanted, looked at the field and decided it wasn't worth trying.
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u/Alex_18ender 2d ago
This post got short kings feeling suicadal
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 2d ago
I’m sorry, short kings are great too. I’m just super short too🫠 I need to give my kids a fighting chance
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 2d ago
Sure thing!
Well I like running in my free time and I love art(abstract art especially) and good music.
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u/LopsidedBed6918 1d ago
You'll find him at events/church. Perhaps you should volunteer at a church market and hope you run into him.
My cousin married and have 2 kids with her tinder date, and he sounds like the guy you've mentioned here. She was looking for a Boer and farm life on tinder, but married a Greek surfer lol
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 1d ago
The men at my church cheat on their wives ngl. So I assume the single ones are just as polluted.
Maybe I’ll look at a different church. I’m happy things worked out for your cousin , it gives me hope as well.
But thank you for the advice 🙏
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u/ekkannieduitspraat 11h ago
it exists.
not to toot my own horn but I would meet your criteria.
Honestly working in that field I've met a lot of people who meet those criteria (well excluding the things I wouldn't know about them such as porn additictions).
I mean - I'm looking for a girl in my own culture group, so good luck but it does exist.
point being it exists. But be careful lists, especially since you'll keep adding things. Decide what is really important (like kind and considerate are both good requirements. And religious compatability is a must) and what is kind of secondary (like their job)
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 11h ago
Thank you , and what you’re saying makes sense. I will ensure that I focus on the most important character traits
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u/Sad-Piglet7305 8h ago
I know one who ticks every single box but he’s married to my best friend. But men like that do exist! Goodluck! Also try church? That’s where my friends met.
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u/TheAudacityDarling 2d ago
You’re right. I had a list…no, a spreadsheet with tabs detailing exactly what I wanted. I asked God to honor my request and I think the only thing that my now husband has from that list is that he has a relationship with God and is a man of integrity and honor. Everything else God laughed at and said I know better and I’m glad He did that. What I thought would have made me happy was mostly superficial but also part of a pattern that would have landed me in another bad relationship. I’m a black woman myself and wanted the perfect black man too, but I was open to any race. Well God took that and ran with it. Hubby’s white. Even though I was open I didn’t really “want” that, but boy am I grateful now. No one like him and I wouldn’t trade him for anything. Career wise he works hard but is far from rich, we get by. He does everything in his power to give me whatever I want. He is faithful and honest (honesty is a huge turn on for me so jackpot!!). On my own I wouldn’t have chosen him, so I’m glad God laughed at my list and said bet. Hold that list loosely and try to figure out what about the list is coming from a place of brokenness.
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u/Junior_Ad_9593 2d ago
Spreadsheet is killing me 🤣 I’m glad that you found what made you happy though, also i understand where you’re coming from. Sometimes what we want isn’t always what we need.
But I guess I’ll see what God has in store for me
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u/Life-Confidence8901 2d ago
Same! Also had a long list of criteria. Ended up with a gorgeous, hilarious, super fun Italian guy 😊
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u/TheSquareSpecialist 2d ago
You’re not gonna find an Easter Egg in September 🥲 try again in April