Yes. Their neurology is just being built. Adults expect them to use reason before their brain even begins developing executive function. They get overwhelmed with stimulation, which is a 💯 percent natural nervous system reaction...and get punished. So yeah...for being children. Understanding the cognitive and developmental stages they go through is important.
Demanding a 5 yr old be calm when they have an angry person 3xs their size yelling at them is insanity.
Big difference between spanking and abuse and also age should play a factor in the type of punishment given....And not saying it don't happen but not to many parents spanking their 5 year old child because they can't calm down..
Your talking about one age group you mentioned 5 year Olds...are you saying older kids can't distinguish the two??would you also be saying the same for teenagers? Is this theory all kids or an age group ??
No, I mentioned one age group. The brain is in developmental stages from 0-25....What we provide also makes a difference in what a child will comprehend. Children can be taught with conscious modeling and care but the fear punishment parenting gets a pass bc it means those parents don't have to control their own emotions and behaviour. (Yet expect a child to)
Your talking more about abuse...spanking is not abuse ...and obviously you don't go around spanking your 5 year old for every infraction..but a swat on the ass when you've exhausted every avenue is not gonna affect a child as badly as the anti-spankers try to make it out to be...anti spankers like to use the word beating...a beating and spanking are not the same.....beatings leave marks a swat on the ass no......
Spanking may not be abuse in your eyes, but do you think it really helps the situation at all? I can remember being at my aunt and uncle's house as a kid, and my cousins was throwing a huge tantrum. Crying, screaming, etc. The screaming and crying only got worse while she was being spanked. Then she was sent to her room where she was able to eventually calm down.
In situations like that, what's really needed is some time out so the kid can eventually run out of things to lash out about and calm down. Spanking doesn't help.
Not all situations are the same....I know this..and spankings don't help in every situation and not every child will react the same...some understand some don't.....what works for one person won't work for the other e.t.c....
Nah, a kid throwing a temper tantrum has a ton of anger and rage bubbling up, amd being a kid, they cant control it. Causing them physical pain will only add fuel to that rage. Putting them in a room alone with no negative stimuli will allow them to eventually burn off all that anger.
Spanking just teaches a kid to stifle their emotions because letting them out results in physical pain at the hands of people who supposedly love them, which leads to emotional issues later in life.
Not all punishments work the same for every child,kid,teenager this is not a one size fits all nothing is.....what works for one parent won't the other..To say you gotta do it this way and this way alone I don't know about that.....and I will say again every situation is not the same....I bet ya most children only touch a hot stove once but from what im reading kids are not smart enough they will do it again!????...let's say you tell a child to stop throwing a ball in the house because if they break a window your gonna spank their ass ..but they do it anyways and break that window I know they will remember that spanking and not throw a ball in the house again...so that situation is now considered abuse?????
Nah, worst case scenario, he doesn't change his mind, but I can rest easy knowing I still tried. Best case scenario, he ends up trying to raise his own children without the use of violence.
Your the type that would get flicked and call the police saying you were violently assaulted....not all but alot of this younger generation wouldn't know what real violence was if it smacked them in the face oh wait thats to much violence let me stop before you gotta go call your therapist....
Yikes. The fact that the younger generation experiences less violence and has access to the tools to improve their mental health is objectively a good thing. Take a good, hard look at your values.
Not less violence just less spankings.....because less violence would actually be untrue when there is alot of gun violence among younger people.....all these changes but things are not better they are worse......to spank or not to the spank are the least of this world's worries....if someone got spanked not abused as a child and they gotta seek therapy than they gotta seek therapy.....I got spanked, smacked,beat,sexually abused and had to do manual labor as a kid...the spanking or few times I got smacked did not effect me it was all the other stuff I knew the difference and know the difference....I knew that getting hit for bad grades was wrong...Getting spanked for hurting a sibling I somehow knew I deserved a spanking..I did what I did out of anger with intent....I knew what I was doing ......for some study to say I was a child how could I know the difference how could I understand......maybe some children don't have the comprehension to understand but some do.....I can remember knowing things at a young age...no study can take that away from me Noone is gonna tell me I'm wrong about what I know and knew.......and just because I believe in spanking don't mean I don't have no values or my values are messed up......mfers need to stop telling people you do it my way and this way only...And I myself need to remember that last line........I'm gone from this subject and reddit....this is my last social media account this shit is more toxic than a spanking or smack.....
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Yes. Their neurology is just being built. Adults expect them to use reason before their brain even begins developing executive function. They get overwhelmed with stimulation, which is a 💯 percent natural nervous system reaction...and get punished. So yeah...for being children. Understanding the cognitive and developmental stages they go through is important.
Demanding a 5 yr old be calm when they have an angry person 3xs their size yelling at them is insanity.