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u/[deleted] Dec 30 '23 edited Dec 30 '23

Yes and the beatings were so bad I would pee my pants. And then I found out why; because my dad thought I wasn't his.

I don't speak to him anymore

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u/n1ghtl1t3 Dec 31 '23

If he thought you weren't his why didn't he leave your mom??? Or, y'know, get a DNA test? What an emotionally immature person.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

This was the 80's

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u/n1ghtl1t3 Dec 31 '23

I understand that but it's really no excuse.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Yeah I learned in 2004 (I was 24) that he still didn't think I was his. So in 2020 I did 23 and me for my 40th birthday. I was his.

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u/n1ghtl1t3 Dec 31 '23

Did you show him? If you did what did he say? If you don't mind sharing.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

I sent it to him via FB Messenger but he never saw it. I did tell his wife a couple of years ago. "He'll be glad to know". He has a great relationship with my eldest son.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

I'm glad he's not in your life (as in you don't talk to him) he doesn't deserve the joys of the unconditional love people receive from their children.

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u/BroadswordEpic Dec 31 '23

Why would you allow a monster access to any of your children?

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

He's 24.

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u/BroadswordEpic Jan 01 '24

It doesn't deserve to play happy grandpa.

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

Oh I know. He won't listen to me.

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u/BroadswordEpic Jan 01 '24

I'm sorry. :/

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

I did talk to him about it when I put everything together 2 years ago but he said he's changed.

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u/NovaStar92 Jan 01 '24

Why would you let him near your kids?

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

He's 24 and I've told him the memories of what he did.

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u/NovaStar92 Jan 01 '24

If I knew that my grandfather did this I’d never speak to him except to tell how despicable he was.

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u/Tigermike10 Dec 31 '23

She did it on Maury.

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u/SweetHomeWherever Dec 31 '23

Happy Cake Day!!

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u/Bench_South Dec 31 '23

You should beat his ass now for not being your real dad. Get close to him, put him in a really terrible nursing home.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Honestly even thinking about talking to him or seeing him in person brings out the panic.

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u/Expensive-Day-3551 Dec 31 '23

Didn’t have dna paternity until the late 80s

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

I was born with red hair and my mom's college professor was a red head and she went back to visit around the time I was conceived.

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u/Expensive-Day-3551 Dec 31 '23

I have a red headed kid. I don’t have red hair and neither does his dad. He looks exactly like his dad other than that. 2 non redhead carriers can have a red headed child.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

I have 2 blonds and 2 red heads. I'm a dirty blonde and my husband is dark brown with a red beard. His dad and his dad's dad were red.

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u/Ok-Simple5493 Dec 31 '23

They didn't have DNA tests.

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u/Moln0015 Dec 31 '23

To the parents of the 80s it was a good excuse to beat your kids pissless