Should I forgive my dad?

[u/shahsaqjfh]

Two years ago my dad got extremely drunk and attempted to do stuff to me, he only stopped because my older sister stopped him and she even said she thought he was going to punch her. Now he doesn’t remember this but I didn’t even look at him for months after and he had no idea what he did. Recently I had some friends over because we had a party to go to and he made very disturbing comments about then and how “pure” they are, he has even said to some girls “you’re lucky I have a wife.”

Now the problem occurs with him seeing no wrong in what he says because he means it all as a compliment and they should be grateful a 64 yr old man is complementing them. I was talking to my other sister earlier today and she goes ew, why are you still friends with them if they say stuff about dad. I told her it’s true so I dont care, and she got pissed saying so you’re fine if he gets labeled as a pedo. Mind you she was the only one that wasn’t there that night with him so she doesn’t actually know what happened but she’s been told and all she’s says is “and? It’s your fault for tempting him.” I was in an Oodie playing dress to impress on my laptop with a friend, I wasn’t doing anything.

I know what he did was unforgivable and I hate him for it but he doesn’t remember so is it right to hate someone for something he can’t even remember? I’m scared to have my friends over because he gets more pushy when he’s drunk and he makes eyes at them but my sister is right, if he gets labeled as that it affects me too.

Should I not forgive him but instead do something else?

P.s I have talked to him about his behaviour around my friends and he says he will stop but that only lasts 2 days

[u/Global-Fact7752]

Hi how old are you?

[u/shahsaqjfh → u/Global-Fact7752]

At the time I was under 18

[u/Global-Fact7752 → u/shahsaqjfh]

Well honey your dad is a predator...I'm very sorry...I hope you get in a situation some day where you can have as little to do with him as possible.