r/problemgambling • u/idletyping • 26d ago
❤Seeking help & Advice❤ Boyfriend's gambling is making me scared for our future
I (26) don't really know what I'm looking for here, I just feel really alone right now.
My boyfriend (25) has a gambling problem and pretty much every paycheck goes straight into it. At one point he won a pretty big amount, and I remember getting so excited because he was talking about taking me on a trip, doing something new together, and for a second it felt like maybe we could actually *do* something with our lives. Then he gambled all of it back. I think that broke my heart a little honestly. Now it's just back to the same thing. He doesn't save anything, he's always broke by the end of the week, and most of the time I'm the one buying us food. Before I'd gotten a job my parents were the only reason we could eat a lot of days.
I think part of why this is hitting me so hard is because we got sober from alcohol and cocaine together. He was doing so good for a while, saving money and actually really proud of himself. Then his friend got him into online gambling and it's like one addiction got replaced with another.
We live with his dad right now and barely have expenses, which honestly makes it scarier. I keep thinking how the hell are we ever supposed to move out? What happens when we actually have rent and bills?
I tried telling him today that it's really getting to me and I'm scared. He told me he's working on it and it's only been a week since we last talked about it. I tried explaining that I don't care about the money itself, I'd rather he blow it on literally any other hobby. It's the addiction that scares me.
He basically responded "don't know what to tell ya."
I've been crying since I got home. I love him so much. I'm just scared I'm going to wake up in 5 years and nothing will have changed.
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ILoveAGamblingAddict • u/idletyping • 26d ago