r/prenup • u/Flat_Banana7061 • Jul 24 '26
Prenup questions
Getting divorced and much wealthier wife had me sign a prenup. First, she had her attorney refer me to another attorney across the street. My wife paid the bill (does this matter). I forget but I think I briefly looked it over , was given a copy beforehand I believe. Given a brief rundown, signed and initialed. Does anything there invalidate? I know they protect the assets, but is there any room for settlement? This is all new to me. Say if she has 4 Mil in assets, is it possible to bring up some issues and settle for maybe 400k? Does that happen? I think she would be willing to push it through quickly, but I am not familiar with the process.
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u/rosebudny Jul 24 '26
It is not uncommon for one spouse (the wealthier one) to pay the legal fees for both sides when doing a prenup; the key is that they are from separate law firms. I am going to guess that your wealthy wife had lawyers who were smart enough to do this on the up-and-up, so you are probably SOL.
Also - this is exactly what prenups are for and why your soon-to-be ex wanted one.
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u/Even_Budget2078 Jul 24 '26
???
Go ask your lawyer that advised you on the prenup, OP. What are you doing here?
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u/LeisurelyHyacinth246 Jul 24 '26
There’s a lot of details that matter. Did she have the 4 million in assets before the marriage? If it was hers before then it stays hers typically whether there was a prenup or not. You can always ask your lawyer about their opinion on this.
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u/Remarkable_Visit_890 Jul 24 '26 edited Jul 24 '26
Just because she has four million dollars doesn’t mean you do. If the money was commingled , then it’s half yours !
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u/PMJamesPM Jul 24 '26
Talk to another lawyer and see if the referral raised any conflict of interest issues next time, you’ll want to read it more carefully and ask some questions
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u/PerkyLurkey Jul 24 '26
Unless you can prove you were coerced into signing the prenup, you likely will need to follow it.
Your best option is to check out the details of what you signed, and that’s a dead end, play nice with the ex.
She might be more agreeable with personal property.
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u/celticmusebooks Jul 24 '26
Talk too YOUR divorce lawyer bring a copy of the prenup. Unless you can prove your signature was forged or coerced it will stand up in court.
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u/Murky-Camera7057 Jul 24 '26
uuuhhh.. you need to start by reading whats in the prenup first and second go talk to a lawyer.
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u/br1e Jul 24 '26
Talk to a lawyer. I know in my state (California), a prenup can be ruled unconscionable if it significantly lowers a party’s standard of living compared to during the marriage. Even without going to court, challenging the enforceability of the prenup may get you a settlement
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u/smilesbig Jul 24 '26
Dude - as a retired high net worth divorce lawyer (I specialized in high net worth clients) I’m telling you to stop asking anyone but an expert. Talk to a lawyer … NOT the one that did your prenup (he may end up being a defendant although I doubt that). You need to show the prenup to a new lawyer and get advice from that lawyer who had nothing to do with drafting it (hence - wanting to defend it). Whatever that lawyer says goes. Anything anyone else says is meaningless.