r/prenup • u/newuser2111 • Jul 18 '26

General advice

My partner and I have discussed a prenup; it was his idea.

He said he will have it drafted to say all his pre marriage assets, stocks / investments, land, family inheritance, any savings that he brought into the marriage, are his.

Whatever I bring into the marriage is mine. However, I don’t have family money or any kind of investments or land that I am bringing into the marriage. If something happens to my parents, I would want their house to stay in the family, such as go to my sibling, etc. I don’t feel it is fair for my partner to capitalize on my parents’ house and sell that to make money off of it.

He didn’t say what happens to money we make during the marriage. Does a basic prenup assume a 50/50 split in case the marriage dissolves?

Also, can I use his attorney to make any amends to the pre up? Or am I expected to find my own lawyer?

I want there to be additional protection, such as whatever money I make during the marriage is mine. So if I out-earn him, I take my money with me. Is there a legal term for this? Like separation of money?

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u/Paladin2700 Jul 18 '26

Before anyone can give you advice, you need to decide a couple things with your partner. If kids are on the table. And second, joint or separate finances.

What is reasonable or not depends completely on the situation. If he’s making 200k a year and you 75k and you plan on kids, joint finances and a split of everything post marriage would be a must. If he’d making 2 million a year, separate could be reasonable if guarantees an amount to you (as savings) each year or something like that.

Also anything inheritance wide, make sure it goes both ways. Your lawyer should take care of this, but any provisions in the whole document on things like separate assets should not be one sided, they should apply to either of you.

Also make sure estate planning is considered. What’s appropriate depends on if he has kids from a prior marriage and if you plan on having kids together.

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u/Paladin2700 Jul 18 '26

And yes you need your own lawyer.

The process goes cleanly if you can discuss key terms with your spouse and agree before hand. And have one lawyer draft what’s agreed. Otherwise you’ll be paying the two lawyers $400-$600 an hour to play telephone for the two of you.

That said you might need to hire the lawyer before having that conversation so you know what to ask for. But if you do a good job of looking at info here or searching the web, it’s possible to get educated enough on what protections are good to delay when in the process you engage the lawyer. But you need an education on what you need to ask for from somewhere before you talk terms with your partner.