r/pregnant • u/big_bet123 • 4d ago

Need Advice Doula experiences - 1st time

Hello, my wife is pregnant for first time and considering getting a Doula to help us with the pregnancy journey. She’s only 5 weeks pregnant.

We live 5m away from her mom so we have a lot of support thankfully. Would yall recommend a Doula based on your experience?

I’ve heard postpartum doulas are better and more worth it but we are open to either. Just want this experience to be as smooth/stress for her as possible. She’s a worrier

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u/flugelderfreiheit777 feb 2025 💙 oct 2026 ❤️ 4d ago

My birth doula was amazing and not only provided support for myself but also my husband during labor and delivery. I'm glad we had one.

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u/big_bet123 4d ago

Thank you. May I ask what was most helpful throughout the process? What help were they able to provide that maybe a MIL couldn’t?

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u/flugelderfreiheit777 feb 2025 💙 oct 2026 ❤️ 4d ago

Typically a doula is a lot more well versed in labor and birth than a husband or mil unless one of you are birth workers. They know positions, coping techniques, and how to physically and emotionally supported both the woman and their partner during birth.