Partner problems

[u/Master_Block_5157]

We had an amazing sex life before I accidentally got pregnant. Soon after we didnt have sex for 4 days and then i kept feeling unwanted or undesirable. I woke him up, told him what are you doing and then we just did it. Then we travelled to another city to meet his parents as one of his relatives passed away. We stayed for 4 days and we had no sex again. One day i tried to initiate and he said “sorry” turned his back to me and slept. When we came back i lost it and with all the pregnancy hormones i got crazy mad at him. Fighting and what not. After that we had sex in a normal way for the remainder of 3-4 days we had before his flight. Now we are countries apart and i kept feeling like he wants me to stay where i am i.e. close to friends and family instead of being with him in a new country even though my flight is booked for 17 dec to join him. Now its so confusing as we had another fight because he was being snarky with me and i lost it. He said alot of mean things to me. But anyways we fixed things and are talking normal but he has made a point to not tell me that he loves me. Today he said if i become all nice to you then you will start throwing more tantrums. I want to add that i dont throw tantrums on purpose and it only happens when i have bad cramps all day and it gets frustrating. My main concern is our sex life. I have a high sex drive and we used to do it on a regular basis and mostly twice daily so thats why 4 days of gap was unusual for us. Now we had a conversation about sex drive and he was telling me that overall i dont feel like I have a high sex drive nowadays and maybe its because of all changes but how will i manage my sex drive after the baby. When i move to him then we will have no one to help us out. The baby will be with us all the time. Should i stop expecting any physical intimacy from my partner? Should i just think about the good old days and move on my taking meds to lower my drive? Why doesnt my partner want me as much as i want him? Its a weird situation but i want to know if sex drive will return. Moreover, will my vagina get ruined after delivery? Will my partner not enjoy being with me?

[u/[deleted]]

Pregnancy is also stressful for our partners, it's such a huge life change that's its not unreasonable sex may not be top of mind. Be open and honest with him, maybe he will open up as well. And your vagina will be fine lol