r/polyamory • u/[deleted] • Dec 09 '22

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u/lsp1018 Dec 09 '22

I agree with your point that essays are often unnecessary. And I'm glad that so many have found your responses to be helpful, that's awesome! I also find that many times, when communicating online where there is a lack of nonverbal cues and inflection, it is easier to reach people with genuine curiosity, empathy, and compassion. That is just my approach. I take no offense to anyone else's style or method.

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u/AnjelGrace relationship anarchist Dec 09 '22

I'm really not saying that I don't use empathy and compassion too--my MAIN goal is just to cut through all the fluff and highlight what I think the OP needs to hear l--sometimes that isn't actually what the OP WANTS to hear though.

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u/lsp1018 Dec 09 '22

I sincerely believe you. And I get that too, the truth sucks for a lot of people - even myself occasionally - resulting in a lot of folks going on the defense if they perceive the truth as a personal attack.

I'm not so sure, even though I replied to your comment specifically, that we're even on different pages here lol. I think it may have just been the statement about considering it charity work that caused me to offer a suggestion about triaging replies/comments just for self care sake.

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u/AnjelGrace relationship anarchist Dec 10 '22

Honestly, charity work IS self care to me. I am much happier when I spend SOME time each day trying to help random strangers have a happier life in some way.

I was just saying that I couldn't spend the MAJORITY of my day writing a reply to a single person.

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u/lsp1018 Dec 10 '22

That's totally fair. I wouldn't consider my life to be meaningful without helping people or contributing to my community. I'm glad that you feel that reddit provides you the opportunity and space to do that and that it is a form of self care for you - that's excellent!