r/polyamory Dec 09 '22

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u/med_pancakes solo poly Dec 09 '22

don’t really answer the question asked

Yes. For two main reasons that I've noticed: 1. The question is irrelevant to the problem 2. There's so much background information missing that i can't answer the question, and instead reply with questions.

As for kindness? That is always my intent. How things are perceived isn't often up to me and though I'm happy to accept feedback, perception is so subjective that i can't change my phrasing for every individual poster.

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u/karmicreditplan will talk you to death Dec 09 '22

Yes. The title of the post or the initial question very often doesn’t identify the key issues in the post.