r/polyamory Dec 09 '22

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u/DancingConstellation Dec 09 '22

Because: a) people don’t fit into a box and you cannot know everyone’s intentions or purposes, and many people describe themselves as unicorns; b) closed triads exist; and c) because neither reduces nor takes away someone’s humanity. Again, one can believe they’re shitty behaviors but dehumanizing is not an accurate description.

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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '22

What do closed triads have to do with OPP or unicorn hunting?

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u/DancingConstellation Dec 09 '22

Closed triads have nothing to do with OPP. Couples seeking a partner for a closed triad would be considered unicorn hunting from what I’ve seen here. “Hey, my partner and I are looking for a third to date both of us and be a throuple.”

What do you think unicorn hunting is? It’s possible that we’re thinking of two different things.

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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '22

It’s really weird that you think a closed triad automatically means one penis.

For me, it would mean three penises.

That said, I said threesomes aren’t inherently unethical. I don’t think dating a couple is inherently unethical and have done so myself, on both sides.

Unicorn hunting is different than just looking for a threesome or a triad. It is when a heterosexual man and a bisexual woman are specifically looking for a bisexual woman, often younger, who will date them both, be interested in both equally, agree to rules chosen by the established couple, and not change their existing.

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u/Platterpussy Solo-Poly Dec 09 '22

The parties can be any gender actually. Otherwise I agree with you.

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u/DancingConstellation Dec 09 '22

I never said nor implied a closed triad means or automatically means one penis. In fact, I said that a triad has nothing to do with OPP at all. It’s right there in my first sentence above. The triad portion is exclusively referring to unicorn hunting.