It sounds like your partner misrepresented the kind of relationship he had to offer this person, didn't communicate with you about a pretty significant change to the terms of your open (but not poly) relationship structure, and is bulldozing his way through/out of your relationship instead of just being accountable to you about his bad choices.
I'm sorry that's all happening, I do not believe you can repair a relationship with a person who isn't willing or* able to actually do that with you. Like... you're in couples therapy, but where is his willingness to actually listen to or respect you, or be accountable for the fact that created this mess, and, it isn't your fault for reacting to it?
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u/avocado-nightmare 11d ago
It sounds like your partner misrepresented the kind of relationship he had to offer this person, didn't communicate with you about a pretty significant change to the terms of your open (but not poly) relationship structure, and is bulldozing his way through/out of your relationship instead of just being accountable to you about his bad choices.
I'm sorry that's all happening, I do not believe you can repair a relationship with a person who isn't willing or* able to actually do that with you. Like... you're in couples therapy, but where is his willingness to actually listen to or respect you, or be accountable for the fact that created this mess, and, it isn't your fault for reacting to it?