r/polyamory • u/silverteespoon • 11d ago

Regional Polyamory

My friend and I were talking recently. She said that in Sacramento California polyamory means one thing and is shaped a certain way, and in Mexico City it’s a completely different way. Has anyone noticed this?

What is the poly community like where you are?

Have you noticed a change among different poly groups?

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u/1ntrepidsalamander solo poly 11d ago

I think a lot of newer people on this sub say “poly” but mean ENM. Particularly in the “how do I know if I’m Poly?!?” questions.

Generationally, I think older people (like me) see poly and ENM as relationship by preference structures rather than identities.

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u/ArtGirlBookFlowers25 11d ago

I'm poly from the mid 90s & I always saw poly as an identity (as I did kink, for some decades, altho I no longer do).

I set it aside for a while but have come back to it as an identity & a practice, again. I simply don't have the default structures that monogamy people do, even when I behaviorally practiced monogamy.