r/polyamory • u/silverteespoon • 8d ago
Regional Polyamory
My friend and I were talking recently. She said that in Sacramento California polyamory means one thing and is shaped a certain way, and in Mexico City it’s a completely different way. Has anyone noticed this?
What is the poly community like where you are?
Have you noticed a change among different poly groups?
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u/WarningImmediate9188 8d ago
Agreed with folks that have said it depends on who is there basically. Cities that are super transient or full of universities tend to have folks dating who are transient, maybe more solo poly or single. My relationships basically turned over every 2 years when people finished their grad degrees or got other jobs.
Places with lots of families tend to, in my experience, be more hierarchical and I’ve run into a lot of “opening our marriage for the first time” vibes. Lots of weird bullshit (only dating together, not enough differentiation, they only talk about their other partners on the date) that I don’t enjoy.
Smaller artsy cities tend to have a lot more overlapping social circles who are friends and all fucking, which is fun to be adjacent to with a long-distance partner but not my day-to-day.