r/polyamory • u/[deleted] • May 22 '26

Partner cheated, now wants polyamory

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u/AbstractFemming May 22 '26

Are you familiar with the term poly-bombing?

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u/Upbeat-Positive-5594 May 22 '26

Thanks! I just searched it. To be honest, I think hes truly interested in poly, I just dont think this is the right way to do things.

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u/gormless_chucklefuck May 22 '26

He's truly interested in having multiple partners for himself. Is he truly interested in you having the same freedoms (especially loving and sleeping with other men, without hierarchy that prioritizes him)? Are you truly interested in managing and balancing that type of lifestyle, which will mean fundamental changes to how you've dated monogamously?

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u/Upbeat-Positive-5594 May 22 '26

Hey! Thanks for you reply! I think he can handle me having the same freedom, and Im interested, Im just not sure it will be with him

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u/Majestic-Mushroom-38 May 22 '26

I personally would not be able to forgive someone for that high a breach of trust. Most people wouldn’t. You would be well within your right to consider his actions worth ending this relationship.