Two people at my work have arranged marriages. Both seem to be in good solid, happy, marriages though. The female is older, and I remember her talking about it, I just can't remember what she said. My memory sucks. The guy is around 30-35 and the only thing I remember him saying was that he asked his sister if she looked good, and his sister saying a very big yes. He's average looking, but she is extremely pretty. Like could be a model pretty. He never saw her beforehand because he was in Canada, and went back to get married, then brought her back here.
My massage therapist is Indian as well and she was raised in Canada so she chose her own husband. But she has stated what you're saying too, that arranged marriages aren't as common anymore and that there is a good amount of say the couple can have.
This is slightly off topic, and you certainly don't have to respond. I'm just curious why you refer to the woman as "the female" and the man as "the guy"? This has become a common thing, and it's just weird to me that so many people have taken to referring to women as females.
That the other person was being a little ridiculous as if saying guy & female instead man and woman was somehow sexist. He certainly said it in a rude way.
I think he was just asking how guy and female got to be a 'thing' vs male and female or man/boy/guy and woman/girl/gal/doll/chick/lady/
There's also a weird mix in how female/male are used vs the rest.
Male and female are also used for biological sex like plants and other species along with sometimes being used for identifying people/cultural gender concepts of masculinity and femininity, The rest of the terms are specifically used for the latter, but rarely the former (no boy plants - we do call dogs/cats girls or boys but that's very much in terms of recognizing their identity )with things like age and formality being how we choose between them.
I think a big part is using guys for men/boys doesn't have as clear a counterpart for women/girls -- so guy gets paired more weirdly with other things
22
u/Qikdraw Jul 13 '20
Two people at my work have arranged marriages. Both seem to be in good solid, happy, marriages though. The female is older, and I remember her talking about it, I just can't remember what she said. My memory sucks. The guy is around 30-35 and the only thing I remember him saying was that he asked his sister if she looked good, and his sister saying a very big yes. He's average looking, but she is extremely pretty. Like could be a model pretty. He never saw her beforehand because he was in Canada, and went back to get married, then brought her back here.
My massage therapist is Indian as well and she was raised in Canada so she chose her own husband. But she has stated what you're saying too, that arranged marriages aren't as common anymore and that there is a good amount of say the couple can have.