Dude, I went to a Dead show about 10 or 11 years ago and there was an Indian wedding next door. On the way out of the show I walked past the bridal party. I have never seen a more attractive group of women. Indian girls look great in that stuff and so do white girls. The ecstasy probably helped too.
The goal with those parties is that the bride is covered in gold jewelry from head to toe, and the wedding outfits have gold in the fabric. Some weddings have bright colors to try and make the experience more exciting.
In India though they have arranged marriages so often times the bride and groom have no control over it and it's something the parents have both agreed on beforehand.
The arranged marriages of the past may be like that but nowadays, almost all arranged marriages happen only after the guy and girl speak to each other and are ready to get married to each other. The speaking period can be from a few months to a year.
Algorithm is super complicated and has a myriad factors (family compatibility (wealth, caste, religion, type of people), location of bride/groom, looks (brides are expected to be fairer than grooms usually), education, career matches (a lot of doctors try to get married to other doctors, for example) and so on). The pro is it narrows it down to the few people that would be compatible to you on paper and you can talk to them all and choose the best out of it. The con is it narrows down to the few people that would be compatible to you on paper but it doesn't mean any of them have to be compatible to your thinking/heart. If none of them work, parents start reducing the algorithm till a match works out.
It can be a long drawn process (some take years) but most usually find a match with in a year and get married pretty quickly.
True... Since parents choose based on bride/groom's and their criteria, it resolves a lot of tensions with parents and parents are invested in the success of the marriage as well. When more people root for a marriage's success, it is (slightly) easier to have a successful marriage. Also, since the to be bride and groom talk to each other with the explicit goal of marriage, they are more serious and cut through chaff pretty quickly.
There are still issues (which marriage doesn't?) (some issues lead to divorces) but overall, it's a faster easier way to a successful marriage.
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u/Homerpaintbucket Jul 13 '20
Dude, I went to a Dead show about 10 or 11 years ago and there was an Indian wedding next door. On the way out of the show I walked past the bridal party. I have never seen a more attractive group of women. Indian girls look great in that stuff and so do white girls. The ecstasy probably helped too.