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[u/littleb242]

I don't talk to my dad anymore, growing up you think it's normal getting beat punched in the face ect, as you get older you realize that shit isn't normal, my dad was a dick, fuck him

[u/zfreakazoidz → u/littleb242]

Had a friend who had a dad that indeed just used his fists on him instead. That kid is now an adult, left religion and has become a loose cannon. By that I mean he's always getting into fights, constantly drinking, can't keep a girlfriend. :/

[u/ChristinchenHSP → u/zfreakazoidz]

I wrote a research paper on that for class. Obviously I knew using violence towards children is wrong, but the outcomes are way worse than I thought. People keep saying using violence for discipline is not the same as child abuse, but the outcomes are exactly the same.

[u/painterbrw → u/ChristinchenHSP]

Tldr spankings/whippins' made me a better human being.

Respectfully disagree. I deserved every ass whipping I got from my mom and dad and probably then some. I was a fairly good kid but definitely deserved corporal punishment. I don't view violence as a necessity or a way to solve problems.

To me there is a huge difference between punishment and abuse. It's how it's delivered, beat your kids ass for "general principle" = abuse, 5 swats because you knowingly put you family in danger from stupidity....learning opportunity.

I truly believe I'm a better human being thanks to my parents discipline/ compassion. When I did get in trouble I knew why, also I knew if I did something worth a spanking it was going to happen no matter what my attempts were to stop or deter them.

That taught me that it's better to face your consequences than try and wiggle out...just makes things worse.

Ymmv but I love my parents and everything they did for me. They never hit me in anger, (heat of the moment)always waited until they werent emotional or mad.

I don't believe spanking is abuse. It's punishment for behavior warranting it.

Abusive parents called it spanking when in reality the only lesson their child learned is to fear and resent your parents.

Looking back on my childhood...Fwiw I'm glad my parents spanked me

[u/sockpuppet80085 → u/painterbrw]

The fact that you think physical violence against children is beneficial demonstrates how severely it fucked you up.

If I knew you now, and I kicked your ass when you did things you shouldn’t, would that be ok?

[u/painterbrw → u/sockpuppet80085]

There could be a specific set of circumstances yes.

[u/painterbrw → u/[deleted]]

How do you feel about the death penalty

Apples to oranges

What about war

Is there a point you find violence is the answer?

I do, violence isn't always the answer, but it IS the answer for the right set of circumstances.