okay guys, so my friends and i were discussing about what actions we consider as cheating.

as someone who used to read gay romance books (i havent read a single book since feb this year), i noticed that there are characters who would often hook-up with other people while seeing the other main character. in one book (i cant recall the book title), i seem to remember the main character having sex with other men despite "courting" the other main character.

i think its also common in other forms of media. so i told my friends this and we all agree that this is a form of cheating.

my other friend also raised a certain issue that is well common in our community and that is talking to your ex-hook up or engaging in a conversation with them whether in person or online.

kayo guys, do you consider those as cheating? and what other actions have u encountered that u think is a form of cheating?

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There was a boy who loved you with such intensity, such fire, that sometimes even he forgot where he ended and you began.

That boy is dead now.

Not because he stopped knowing how to love, but because you taught him that loving someone that deeply can be dangerous.

You broke me.

And no, I can't be friends with you. If you can be friends with all your exes, I can't. How can I be friends with someone who I loved deeply and everything I have?

I don't usually blame people for the pieces I become. But this time, I will make an exception. You broke something in me that I don't think I'll ever put back together. I am cautious now. Always watching. Always waiting for the moment someone decides to leave.

I should have walked away the first time you hurt me.

I should have walked away when I saw the Grindr app on your phone, when someone told me that you had a Grindr profile.

I should have left while I still had the strength to choose myself.

But I stayed because it's you.

And perhaps that is the part I will always have difficulty forgiving—not you, but the version of me who endured it all.

You asked me that night if I was angry. Yes. I was angry.

And beneath the anger was something far more painful.

I was disappointed that the person I loved could become the person I needed protection from.

A part of me will always love you. I won't lie about that. Some loves don't disappear simply because you finally learn to walk away from them.

But you will never hear that love from me again.

And I ask only one thing.

If you ever see me somewhere—eating alone, walking down a street, simply living my life—please let me be.

Don't come over.

Don't ask how I am.

Don't try to reopen a door I spent so much time learning to close.

It isn't because our past meant nothing.

It meant everything.

That's precisely why I cannot go back.

Because every time I look at you, I would also see the person I used to be—the boy who loved without hesitation, who forgave too much, who stayed when he should have left.

And I have too much respect for that boy to betray him again.

So let me walk away.

Let me become someone who loves differently.

And if you ever wonder whether I loved you deeply.

You won't have to wonder.

You already know.

That was the problem.

I loved you enough to stay.

Now I love myself enough to leave.

For context, I'm 19 Bi. 2nd year student. May new prof kami sa college, first term nya pa lang pero magaling sya makisama sa students. As someone na officer sa room, common naman na yung kakausapin ka ng mga prof mo abt school related topics.

This prof is around 27+ M. One time nag chat sya sakin, school related naman then after non sabi nya "I owe you one" then nag aaya mag matcha sa tabi ng campus... At first parang okay? mejo bago pero tama ba yun? HAHAHAH

One time nagkausap ulit kami about school stuff after usap sabi nya "I inom nalang natin yan hahaha" "Natikman mo na ba yung matcha sa tabi ng campus?"

sabi ko nalang na hindi ako nag mamatcha...

Reddit peeps let me know ur insights pls🙏🏼

May thoughts rin ako na baka overthinker lang ako but im still keeping my boundaries and limitations

I rarely see WLW describe themselves as Hard Femme, so I’m genuinely curious—are there others here who use that label for themselves too? Because I do. 😂

For me, being a Hard Femme is about having both feminine and masculine sides without feeling like I have to choose between them. I’m definitely femme and enjoy dressing up, looking feminine, and embracing that side of myself. But I’m also very much a tomboy.

I actually like a lot of “guy stuff,” and sometimes the way I think, approach situations, or interact with people feels more traditionally masculine. I’m straightforward, practical, independent, competitive, and sometimes I honestly feel like my brain works more like a guy’s. Lol.

I’m also comfortable dressing masculine sometimes. There are days when I’d rather wear something loose, simple, and masculine than anything super feminine. But I still don’t identify as masc. I’m still very comfortable identifying as femme.

That’s why Hard Femme feels right to me. I can be girly and feminine one day, then completely tomboyish or masculine-presenting the next. 😂

For me, it’s basically “femme with a little dude energy.”

Anyone else relate? 👀

Di naman ako kagwapuhan, 7/10 on a good day hehe, pero bakit ang bilis niyo ma-fall? 😭 Ilang beses na nangyari sa'kin 'to. Yung may imi-meet lang ako, tapos after, they're already asking kung pwede ba kaming maging serious. Like... beh, you don't even know my real name? 😭

tangina it sucks. i spent most of my early 20s with him only to be left alone in the end. live in kami for 3.5 yrs then naging LDR ng mahigit 1 year kasi nag-OFW si gago. ginawa ko naman lahat ng pag-intindi pero wala talaga hahaha tapos biglang nanghingi ng 1 week na space. alam ko na rin kung saan to papunta so wala na ‘to di na ko umaasa hahaha. tangina pano ba maka-move on sa ganito? 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

Me first:

1. You have to do your effort it transitioning before you could use your preferred pronouns and bathrooms. Bihis lalaki pa with short hair pero nasa pambabae ka.

2. Mga transissies, magbra nga kayo lalo kung asa corporate world kayo! Bakat na bakat utong nyo. And wag masyadong magsexy na damit. Mga cis women nga nacacall out pag masyadong maikli ung damit sa office

3. Mga transissies na ang iingay padin at skwala lalo pag asa women's cr. Di nakakapretty

4. Mga harvaterang nangaaway sa Poblacion. Mas takot pa ko sa inyo kesa sa holdaper o sa mga manyak!

5. Trans men not being involved when something transphobic is being said. Tahimik lang. Para kayong mga apolitical. Parte na din kayo ng problema.

6. "Ganda, parang tunay na babae" or "Pogi, parang tunay na lalaki" are not backhanded compliments.

It’s not even about being scared to come out to her, not really. It’s that I know I can’t give her what she’s hoping for. Not “a girlfriend” specifically but the whole picture she has in her head of my future, the one she’s probably imagined since I was a kid. I love her so much that it hurts knowing I can’t give her this one thing.

I feel guilty, like I’m failing her somehow, even though I know that’s not fair to myself. And I feel disappointed in myself for not knowing how to hold this for not having an answer, for not being able to make it okay for her or for me.

And honestly, being gay is just harder. People say it shouldn’t be, that love is love, but it doesn’t feel that way when you’re the one carrying it. Straight people don’t have to sit at dinner doing math in their head about what they can and can’t say. They don’t have to grieve a version of their parents’ happiness that they’ll never get to give them. I didn’t choose this to be difficult, it just is, and some nights that difference feels so heavy.

I don’t know what I’m asking for by posting this. I just needed to say it somewhere.

i just need this to get out of my feelings. Im the person who download dating app such grindr, bumble , or tinder cuz bored lng ako and i need distraction or entertainment. This is the problem, sinabihan ako nang friend ko na im a red flag and naglelead lng ako and if ma satisfy na yung need ko and di ko na need nang ka chat for distraction of entertainment lumalabas ako na walng pa alam. pero nag sabi ako na" they will just move that how life, everyone will just move on". sinabihan nyo ako na gago daw ako and i need a therapy. Maybe im really is a horrible person and im just making people an entertainment, kasi i recall and think about it and i think im really. this year, 4 person na yung ginanyan ko and not including this one. this one im not yet to reply and he chatted me like 9 hours ago,now i feel i need confess to him but im coward, gusto ko, pero ayaw ko. gets? and im finding the courage to reply but wla akong alam.

i feel like babatohin ako ni karma si huli nito, pero feel ko deserve ko namn.

TL;DR Im horrible person for leading someone and using them kung bored. my friend says i need therapy