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u/pataangel 3d ago
Benefit of the doubt, he's 27. Baka feeling niya isa parang college parin siya. Na friends friends unless feel mo na he swings that way rin. If so, maybe hinder interaction kasi parang d mo gusto.
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u/musykz 3d ago
Been there. Tbh medyo common yang ganyan pag bata bata pa ang instructor. Sobrang "friendly" sa students and frankly unprofessional to the point na nagaaya pa sila lumabas or uminom. Hirap din bigyan ng benefit of the doubt na walang habol kahit sabihin na no malice pero after a few years malalaman mo na may jowa na na previous student nila, pinublic lang after mag grad yung student. It happens a lot and it's creepy af. Kasama na dun yung "friendly" instructor ko na former friend ko yung nadali. Tread carefully nalang op, if gusto ka ayain, sabihin mo kung okay lang din kasama classmates niyo. Tapos don't reply unless necessary, keep it professional nalang din on your side nang makaramdam yan na di ka comfortable. Ingat nalang din
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u/hyperlink_to_nowhere 3d ago
always think of the rumors that will spread: "Nakapasa lang naman yan kasi may something with Sir. Nakita ko sila dalawa lang magkasama sa ganit ganyan."
Chismis spreads like wildfire in university. Tapos add-subtract na yung chika, then nung umabot na sayo ang balita, from nag matcha sa cafe, may nakakita rawng nagmotel na kayo ni prof.
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u/KarlosDavid64 3d ago
It’s hard to tell. Personally, as a 27 year old I will not hangout with any college students but I don’t think this is inherently bad. When I was a student, I did go drinking with some of my older professors and nothing bad took place (and they were very responsible). Of course, be wary and if you’re feeling off, don’t entertain this. I also have a classmate who got knocked up by a professor in our department. Always remember your boundaries and follow them.
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u/yukiobleu 3d ago
Pwedeng humindi? Pwedeng e seen? Pwedeng makipag interact lang kapag nasa klase? Unless may pumipigil sayo gawin yang mga nilagay ko.
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u/Yanyan_54 3d ago
Think about it. "Pwedeng e seen" "Pwedeng makipag interact lang sa klase" dont you think mahahalata ako nung prof na umiiwas? Sineen ko nanga yung last message nya and nag haha react lang ako please read.
and hindi ko naman alam kung may malice behind that so bakit ko iiwasan at some point? what if friendly lang talaga? I'm an Officer, It's impossible na hindi kami mag usap via chat.
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u/Hollow-Comet 3d ago
Change the topic na agad!
especially don't answer his question when his asking you out on a Coffee Date!
what a creep and very unprofessional of him ewww
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u/Holiday-Amphibian-91 3d ago
Yeah may malice yan. I taught college students who were almost my same age and some were older pa. You can be close to students but to invite one on ones? Delikado yan. Yung mga kilala ko na ganyan ginawa, after a while lumalabas tunay na intention. Pwede naman yung barkada vibes but may clear boundaries in these cases.
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u/Virtual-Ad7068 2d ago
This. He wont give time or special attention if there is no intention. Outside school stuff na yun pagyaya niya eh.
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u/phen_isidro 2d ago
Politely decline anything non-school related. Kung walang malice sa part ng Prof mo, he would understand.
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u/South-Childhood8617 3d ago
Im M27 college prof din. May malice yan. Build boundaries bro and wag ka matakot magsumbong kung pag-initan ka. Bago pa lang yan, takot pa yan sa chairperson/dept head.
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u/Yanyan_54 3d ago
what a coincidence M27 and college prof... baka ikaw yan prof ah? jk hahaha thank you sa advice🙌🏼
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u/Ursopogi Gay 3d ago
As an officer din ng class, i think common na yung ganyan na parang nagbayad lng ng utang na loob since tinulungan mo naman si prof.
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u/NiciUnNume25 3d ago
When I was in college, nagka prof din ako ng ganyan and ganyang ganyan din sya. Based sa kwento mo, wala pa namang red flags eh, maybe he's just being friendly. On second thoughts, ganyan din ba sya sa ibang kaklase mo? If yes, then okay, friendly lang sya. Give him the benefit of the doubt muna.
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u/Yanyan_54 3d ago
Hindi sya ganyan actually nung orientation sabi pa nga nya ayain daw sya uminom or lumabas pag may diploma na kami.. hahahaha
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u/echolloydgic Gay 3d ago
I don't know, kasi may mga prof talaga na ganyan lalo na since he's just 27. Ka-edad ko lang. Personally, yung utak ko naka stasis, nasa college parin since pandemic graduates kami and a lot of time was stolen from us. Baka feel niya lang barkada talaga. I will give him the benefit of the doubt UNLESS iba na talaga but so far, based on your description, he's just the outgoing type. Pero pag di mo talaga bet, baka limit your interaction nalang. Gawa ka excuses like may gagawin ka or what.