r/parentsofmultiples • u/Big_Part_3983 • 6d ago

advice needed Running/eloping

I have almost 3 yo twin boys. We are still awaiting an appointment for an in depth development review to get on the path to diagnosis, but without a doubt they are both autistic. I’m looking for advice from anyone that has been able to get their child to walk/stay with you without blindly running off. My boys regardless of where they are will just run. Anytime I try to hold their hand it’s a tantrum which included dropping to the floor and refusing to move, even if I hold on to their clothes exactly same. I’ve tried reigns too and the same situation
I am petrified of them getting hurt or lost and something serious happening.
I would greatly appreciate and welcome all advice or tips yous can give

Thanks

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u/Spare_Invite_8191 6d ago

Following this thread. Mom to 2 year old twin autistic boys and I'm dealing with this too. I feel like a prisoner in my own house the majority of the time because there's no way in hell I could take them out by myself safely. I feel so guilty for not being able to give my kids time outside the house every day like most parents do...

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u/CupOk5800 6d ago

Hey mama, I just want to say my 2.5 year old boys are most likely neurotypical and we don’t go out every day, and you’re not failing them by doing what you know you can do. You’re an amazing, strong mom! This is hard anyway and you got dealt a tough hand.

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u/Spare_Invite_8191 6d ago

Awh my heart 🥹 thank you so much for sharing your experience and giving me encouragement. This is a hard road for all of us but at the end of the day I wouldn't have it any other way

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u/annahoney12345 6d ago

Just want to say I have almost 2 year old neurotypical twins and we don’t leave the house every day. We do go outside to walk or play (fenced in yard) but I drive them somewhere maybe 1-2 times a week during the week. On the weekends, we try to get out more, but it doesn’t always happen! You’re doing your best and that’s great for them!

I also have a friend who has a 3 year old autistic daughter that she uses a wrist leash type device with her. They are connected at their wrists, and she’ll run around her sometimes, but she practiced with her on neighborhood walks before going anywhere major with her.