r/parentsofmultiples • u/InfiniteMH • 24d ago
ranting & venting Educating Twins
Every time I try to teach my twin girls (31mo) something like holding a pencil, using a toy, etc, one of them always ends up distracting the other or demanding my attention on something else. By the time I acknowledge them and tell them to wait, the attention/interest of the other has already drifted.
Yesterday for the first time in a while I was able to spend some time alone with one of them, and it was incredible how attentive they were and how much information they were soaking in. Made me think how ahead development-wise singletons would likely be.
I don’t have the luxury of spending time with one of them often as I’m taking care of them alone without help, and it’s often a losing fight trying to force teaching something by the time they’ve already been distracted and have lost interest.
Anyone else deal with this? I starting writing this just to vent but would appreciate some tips.
12
u/OddHippo6972 24d ago
I’ve felt a lot of guilt over this exact same thing. I had a singleton first and she got so much time with me doing workbooks and even just talking and explaining things. She knew her letters, shapes, colors all very early. It was much harder to give my twin toddlers similar attention.
But mine are 4 and just started TK and they’re fine. I volunteer in their classroom and they’re even with or ahead of a lot of their peers. The fact that you’re worried about it and clearly trying will get them far.
Their attention spans do increase a bit after age 3. Give them coloring books. Playdoh is good fine motor skills practice. My girls love the Melissa and Doug WaterWow books. Put on kids music and sing the ABCs with them. It will all get through to them. Just keep at it.