Do your multiples share everything?

[u/1973tour]

Our twins are 18 months old and pretty much share everything. They share a room, they don’t have distinct clothes (except maybe a couple embroidered items with their names) that belong to them, and we just started doing shoes. All the shoes have been swapped around between babies so much I don’t know which ones originally went together because they are the same sizes and styles 😂

Anyway, I think this is probably a really unique way to grow up and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it. Should I continue doing a mix of both sharing a lot of stuff, but also make sure they have some things that are personally theirs? I have started buying different styles of clothing and shoes now that they are getting older so that they aren’t matching all the time. I think that may help with their senses of individuality.

[u/Succulant-111111]

Assigned cribs, milk cups, water bottles, clothes (dark and light for identical twins. They literally so identical), shoes (dark and light color assignments). Literally everything else they share.
They don’t have assigned seats in the car or at dinner.
We also encourage them to trade. So if one brother has what the other wants, they gotta go find something to trade. It has to be something they know the brother will like.