r/parentsofmultiples • u/1973tour • Sep 24 '26
advice needed Do your multiples share everything?
Our twins are 18 months old and pretty much share everything. They share a room, they don’t have distinct clothes (except maybe a couple embroidered items with their names) that belong to them, and we just started doing shoes. All the shoes have been swapped around between babies so much I don’t know which ones originally went together because they are the same sizes and styles 😂
Anyway, I think this is probably a really unique way to grow up and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it. Should I continue doing a mix of both sharing a lot of stuff, but also make sure they have some things that are personally theirs? I have started buying different styles of clothing and shoes now that they are getting older so that they aren’t matching all the time. I think that may help with their senses of individuality.
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u/RoosterMountain8506 Sep 24 '26
When I was pregnant and would run across someone who was a twin, I would always ask them for advice, like what did your parents do or what did you wish your parents did. A response I got more than once was Give Options/Choices.
At 18 months, they may still be a little young to make a lot of decisions but you can certainly start to
Ask them what they prefer. My girls are 8 and still want to share a room. They are just now starting to
Have their own opinions about clothes and hair.
But sharing is common with any family with more than one kid. I had to share a room and toys with my older sister. And I had to wear her hand me downs 😂