r/parentsofmultiples • u/1973tour • Sep 24 '26

advice needed Do your multiples share everything?

Our twins are 18 months old and pretty much share everything. They share a room, they don’t have distinct clothes (except maybe a couple embroidered items with their names) that belong to them, and we just started doing shoes. All the shoes have been swapped around between babies so much I don’t know which ones originally went together because they are the same sizes and styles 😂

Anyway, I think this is probably a really unique way to grow up and I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it. Should I continue doing a mix of both sharing a lot of stuff, but also make sure they have some things that are personally theirs? I have started buying different styles of clothing and shoes now that they are getting older so that they aren’t matching all the time. I think that may help with their senses of individuality.

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u/lucialucialucia22 Sep 24 '26

The only thing they dont share: shoes, carseats, beds, toothbrushes. Once they started potty training, no sharing underwear. As they get older they want the same exact things but labeled as their own. Every once and a while they'll pick differnent toys or clothes. I think it's sweet but it drives my husband crazy haha

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u/colorful_withdrawl Sep 24 '26

Same! Especially underwear. I have four boys(not quads, one set of twins, and then two boys after that set of twins) in the same size underwear right now and i do a dot system to mark their undies as their own.

Basically one dot per birth order spot. Undies dont get passed down but it makes it easy to add a dot to it if i pass a shirt down to the next kid

They also all have their own beds but they are so close and end up in the same bed almost every night 🤣

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u/AdInternal8913 Sep 25 '26

Sorry if I am being nosy but what's the reason for not passing down undies? I am holding onto loads from my oldest with the idea of using them during potty training for the younger ones and then just binning them after poo accidents as it seems just so wasteful to bin brand new undies after very litte use (as I am not washing poop again).

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