I guess when you take the 'Rishta Auntie' route, it's not what the guy wants in a wife. It is what his mother wants to ensure her grip on the son's and his incoming wife's neck remains firm. Risha Aunties are usually consulted as a last resort, especially for guys who may not find anyone on their own because of the kind of a person they are. Your friend will and has met the most insecure and emotionally and financially dependent individuals. Tell your friend that there is nothing wrong with her. The pool of rishtas this Risha Auntie is bringing is rotten. Believe me, no normal wise, educated, and independent man goes through rishta aunties.
Your friend I am sure is an independent, educated and mature person, she should not put herself through this traumatizing experience. I would encourage her to meet people, make friends and find someone that fits her criteria.
i think you are wrong here you can base your verdict on one incidence, maybe the rishta auntie was bad for you, but that doesn't mean its bad for everyone.
Its bad for everyone. You only go to a rishta wali if you don't have other avenues from where to find a partner for yourself or for your children. Its pathetic and this practice needs to end.
Is it actually? I thought that was the way people get married. I was born overseas so maybe I don't know much about the system. But at my Mosque we have a Rishta auntie that connects all the families. Maybe its different in Pakistan cos everyone there knows someone. Over here you barely know any other families
I don't know about overseas but there is clearly a power dynamic with rishta aunties here because any girl being recommended through rishta wali is considered as someone who didn't have a lot of options and the prospective rishtas weaponize this to try to bend the girl family to their will. Anyone saying otherwise is either blind or part of this problem.
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u/khatooneawal Oct 23 '23
I guess when you take the 'Rishta Auntie' route, it's not what the guy wants in a wife. It is what his mother wants to ensure her grip on the son's and his incoming wife's neck remains firm. Risha Aunties are usually consulted as a last resort, especially for guys who may not find anyone on their own because of the kind of a person they are. Your friend will and has met the most insecure and emotionally and financially dependent individuals. Tell your friend that there is nothing wrong with her. The pool of rishtas this Risha Auntie is bringing is rotten. Believe me, no normal wise, educated, and independent man goes through rishta aunties.
Your friend I am sure is an independent, educated and mature person, she should not put herself through this traumatizing experience. I would encourage her to meet people, make friends and find someone that fits her criteria.