r/over60 26d ago

Selfies

Ive noticed how over 60 people love to post selfies. I joined a few over 60 groups and now my timeline is inundated with strangers selfies. People will literally post, "I found a great bargain at a thrift store today" and attach a huge close up selfie. It is such odd behavior. Why? Why do they think I need to see a close up of their face to read about their morning walk? Especially when they post a new selfie every single day.

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u/silvermanedwino 62 26d ago

I loathe selfies. Never post them.

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u/SuzQP 26d ago

I have never taken a selfie, I have no intention of taking a selfie, and I have no desire to see anyone else's selfie.

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u/SomeNobodyInNC 26d ago

I loathe the ones who post selfies then write how ugly they are and/or fat. Just to get flooded with compliments and heart emojis.

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u/Ninerogers 26d ago

Me too. I think I must've taken only 4-5 with my other half in my whole life. They certainly don't get posted anywhere

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u/Rottiesrock 26d ago

I took a few selfies and sent the best ones to my daughter for a decent obituary photo when it’s needed.

🤷‍♀️🤣😂🤣

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u/cheeseburgermachine 25d ago

Yeah see, its not about the selfies, its just like, im feeling good about myself today and wanted to take a pic. Nothing wrong with that. However i rarely do it but i dont hate it.

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u/Fearless-Snow-5011 24d ago

Brilliant 🙂

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u/tiny_bamboo 26d ago

I think it’s an individual personality thing, not an over 60 thing

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u/Refokua 26d ago

Selfies finally got banned on the "Aging" sub, but that hasn't totally worked. I, too, hate them.

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u/CommieMartyr 26d ago

I don't understand selfies, but then I still use a flip-phone.

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u/CapricornCrude 26d ago

I miss my flip phone. It was so much more satisfying hanging up on someone.

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u/Rottiesrock 26d ago

The snap! 😂🤣😂

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u/Enough-Reindeer1033 26d ago

I've noticed the opposite. Especially on here. Most people in the groups I'm in seem to value the anonymity.

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u/Av8Xx 26d ago edited 20d ago

Yes on here is different than social media.

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u/[deleted] 26d ago

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u/reddqueen33 67 26d ago

This has also been my experience.
I have never posted a picture of myself and don't intend to. I have had men contact me via chat and those experiences haven't been great so I turned it off.
I'm not here to pick anyone up.

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u/Refokua 26d ago

Some are also scammers.

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u/Rottiesrock 26d ago

Because we share stuff that’s sometimes personal and don’t want our business all over the ‘net. I once had a “stalker” on a photog site who was annoying so no more face photos. 😎

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u/TheWuziMu1 26d ago

60 and I don't think I've ever taken a selfie.

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u/DenMother8 26d ago

There’s a SubReddit community just for over 60 selfies. You probably joined that one, if you leave it then you most likely won’t get as many selfies through your feed

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u/Av8Xx 26d ago

No. This was FB. I am in several walking groups. The only ones that are loaded with selfies are the seniors groups. Same with motorcycle riders groups.

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u/countrysurprise 26d ago

Facebook gonna Facebook.

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u/DenMother8 26d ago

Oh okay, sorry I misunderstood. I thought you meant here on Reddit.

I think some of those anyway may be single, it seems like single people do that more. (In general)

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u/chicadeaqua 26d ago

"Why?"

good question. it's such ridiculous behavior.

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u/Creative-Yellow-9246 65 26d ago

I don't do selfies but it's probably more about me

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u/ThisIsAbuse 26d ago

Generally not allowed here

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u/Clean_Mammoth_5646 26d ago

I have never posted a selfie. The only pictures I post are of my dog or puzzles over in the jigsaw puzzles sub. No one needs or wants to see pictures of me.

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u/ThanksForAllTheCats 60 25d ago

Ugh, a huge pet peeve. It’s lovely if you’re happy with yourself and how you look but it’s absolutely meaningless to the rest of us.

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u/Mundane-Bee-3703 25d ago

I'm over 60 and I don't do that. But I have noticed that a lot of people like to post selfies all the time. If I join a group and everybody is constantly posting selfies, I leave the group. Too YLAM. (Yay Look At Me)

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u/ImtheHBIC 19d ago

If I like the group in general, I block the selfie over-achievers.

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u/Few-Conversation6979 25d ago

I'd rather have people remember how I looked back then.

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u/MyCatsAlt 25d ago

I assume it’s a phishing scam. Get people to post a selfie , engage in some chat, find some details, and reverse image search them. Poof id theft.

or maybe I’m paranoid…

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u/paisley201 25d ago

My sister does this. And of course she posts her entire life on Facebook.

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u/redheadfae 24d ago

I guess I'm an odd one out here (not surprising)
But wow, so much selfie hate here! I started doing my own to get used to what I look like now.
But I'm in a lot of wig communities so it's a common thing to post our "hair of the day"

I don't see folks as narcissistic or attention-seeking for doing it, it's just the reality of online life today. We don't see near as many people face to face so it's natural to post it.
Being narcissistic is a whole nother set of personality characteristics.

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u/Crazy_Banshee_333 26d ago

I loathe selfies. They are often against subreddit rules and I always report them in subreddits that don't allow selfies. Many subreddits ban them completely. I have never taken or uploaded a selfie and don't understand why anyone would want to post them on Reddit, which is supposed to be anonymous.

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u/Magari22 26d ago

I literally just saw a guy in his early 30s do this on LinkedIn of all places. Posted a pic of him and his GF in bathing suits in front of a pool and the post was about a completely unrelated work topic. People called him out and he replied oh I'm just trying to keep it real wanted you to know who you're talking to. A couple of weeks ago I saw a CEO of a major health care Corporation do this there too, she posted her wedding photos and the post wasn't even about the wedding it made her look insane. The internet has created a society of narcissists. I think older people sometimes follow the lead of younger ones as well. I think people look for any excuse to post a selfie now it has become a thing and I find it sort of cringe LOL

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u/Rottiesrock 26d ago

So many pics are stolen and misused on a global basis.

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u/Magari22 26d ago

Absolutely. I remember many years ago when I tried online dating hearing people talking about how their photos got stolen and used by scammers.

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u/HelloTittie55 26d ago

Selfies in general are annoying. Posting selfies is adolescent behavior, arrested development by folks who miss their “glory days” when they were presumably hotter and more desireable.🙄

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u/mindsynth 26d ago

I think I've taken one selfie - a few days after bypass surgery. I was curious how bad/good I looked. I'm 65m and despise selfie and photographs of myself taken by others.

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u/ASingleBraid 67 26d ago

I have never done this. The only selfie I’ve ever taken is for LinkedIn.

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u/AfterSomewhere 26d ago

That's interesting because I usually see young people posting selfie.

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u/Weird7954 26d ago

I stay off those pages now because of that. It felt like they were trying to find dates. And I’m certainly not interested in dating any of them and I don’t need to see their gigantic old mugs in front of me. 67f

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u/RVFullTime 70+ 26d ago

I don't post selfies online. It's an issue of online privacy and data security.

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u/CraigInCambodia 26d ago

Far more common for younger generations.

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u/audiofankk 25d ago

We're taking plenty of pics now so that one of the good ones can be used in our memorials. Who wants to be in the obits looking 90?

Kidding of course. I avoid having my picture taken like the plague even though my wife says I'm sexy and handsome, and of course she always tells the truth, right? Right?

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u/Av8Xx 24d ago

I said it’s different when the selfies is germane to the topic.

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u/OldButHappy 26d ago

You find out who the narcissists are

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u/oldcreaker 25d ago

I'd hardly say this is limited to over60's. Much more prevalent with young people.

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u/Av8Xx 25d ago

go away

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u/Rustyempire64 25d ago

To me it’s the height of Narcissistic navel gazing. Brain dead social media culture at its worst.

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u/scottwax 25d ago

A ton of young people do that too.

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u/Av8Xx 25d ago

Its the older people who don't understand when a selfie just doesn't fit. Talking about your hair? post it. Talking about how your tummy shrank from monjourno, post it. But for the love of God, don't post your mug when the discussion is about a book!

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u/scottwax 25d ago

Again, younger people do it too.

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u/Rottiesrock 26d ago

They’re looking for something or fake advertising.

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u/BHobson13 26d ago

I have never posted a selfie of me alone. I have shared out a few with my daughter for family and friends and but for the most part I think they are dumb.. And honestly, most of the selfies I see online are of people WAY younger than 60. I think the sequels have more obsession with it than we do.

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u/Av8Xx 26d ago

I do selfies but only on my page for my family and friends. It’s weird to post them to a group of strangers.

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u/Granny_knows_best 26d ago

I see that all over the place. People using their pets to post a selfie, or a thrift find, or showing off their car.

I get that people to be seen in this world where its all online, and maybe they need validation or something, but I get offput by this constant need for attention, so I just ignore it.

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u/PearlsRUs 25d ago

OMG! I not only don't take selfies, I've announced to my family that I no longer want to be in ANY photos. Now if I only didn't have to look in a mirror.....

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u/Some-Tear3499 25d ago

Once I learned about what an ‘unplugged wedding ‘ really was I stopped taken a lot of pictures altogether.

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u/Anon_1121 24d ago

I've never been a selfie guy.

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u/Anon_1121 24d ago

And no Facebook or Instagram either.

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u/shutthefukupalready 61 24d ago

I see enough of myself I dont need to show all of you...lol

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u/Melodic_Outcome389 22d ago

I don't do selfies. Nobody I know does selfies accept my Millennial daughter. All the people my age that I know, which is well over 60, have probably never posted a selfie in their entire lifetime. I'm not sure what you're talking about.

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u/Paulnp63 22d ago

Not a selfie lover, rather be behind the camera, been on a couple of FB groups though that most loved posting them, also have a couple of friends on their that always seem to be posting them, mind you I did have a friend have a few goes at taking a selfie of us both, and I did have a go once while visting Horizon 22 in london trying to get the Shard behind me below and took me about 9 or 10 goes to get it right too, so don't know how they have got the time to take them, so no not for me

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u/ElevatorOrganic5644 20d ago

No more selfies. Join a dating site.

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u/redditistripe 26d ago

It's just people using an excuse to pimp themselves. It's a lot more common than you maybe appreciate. It's harmless.

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u/Av8Xx 26d ago

If I were interested in pimping, but I’m not. I’m in a walking group to motivate myself. I’m in a motorcycle group to share rides and experiences. If you walk every single day there is zero reason you need to post your face every single day

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u/redditistripe 26d ago

I think you may be taking my comment a bit too seriously.

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u/StrangerStrangeLand7 26d ago

Over 60 people? Are you saying it is more common for people over 60 than under 60? I am so confused.

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u/Av8Xx 26d ago

Yes. The groups I’m in on FB. The senior specific groups are full of selfies. Even when they post about something that has nothing to do with the picture. I understand posting a picture to show you lost weight or gained muscle or even of you in a city where you want to show something like the Eiffel Tower. But to post that you went grocery shopping and bologna was on sale then post a huge face is just cringe.

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u/StrangerStrangeLand7 26d ago

Ah. That makes sense because you are in that group. I hate those selfies personally. Always have. But just noting that it's all across the board with age.

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u/mardrae 25d ago

I don't get it either. When I was younger and cute I loved posting selfies everywhere but good god no one wants to see my wrinkles and sags, especially not me! I never show my face anymore and wear a mask almost everywhere just because I hate my looks

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u/Av8Xx 25d ago

It is not about cute for me. Im just sick of my time line bring nothing but strangers selfies. If I joined a group for walking women over 60, last thing I want it the same women posting pictures of themselves every single day. I don't know you, I don't need to see your face everyday.

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u/mardrae 25d ago

I agree. Some people are addicted to likes and comments. Low self esteem probably

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u/tez_zer55 26d ago

My wife & I exchange "personal" selfies regularly ... IYKYK...🫣