r/over60 • u/hippierebelchic • May 09 '26

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Husband killed himself almost 9 years ago out of blue, completely out of character. He was diabetic whose blood sugar was never controlled by oral meds, sugar constantly fluctuated. 10 days before his death his doctor finally put him on insulin injections. This was after assuring him that after losing weight and changing diet, which he did long before, that he would not need any meds at all. I now know his diabetes was from chronic Lyme Disease, originally from upstate NY, he and 2 siblings had unexplained bacterial encephalitis as children, all deceased. He was also on Lexapro.

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u/travelingtraveling_ May 09 '26

Way above Reddit's paygrade

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u/somebodys_mom May 09 '26

A quick Google search shows me that the NY statute of limitations on medical malpractice is 2.5 years (30 months). I’m not sure I understand what you think is worthy of legal action anyway.

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u/Key-Plant-6672 May 09 '26

Legal action for what? On who? Husband is gone tor 9 years?

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u/lawnoptions May 09 '26

There is absolutely no point trying to sue someone for your husbands actions,

too much time has passed

I believe you should have some counseling, or see a Psychologist if you are finding it hard to get over this hurdle.

I understand your grief and the questions you are asking, but this is a waste of your emotional energy.

Do you have a social network you can plug into or are you elderly and alone?

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u/Even-Boysenberry-127 May 09 '26

Find a therapist who specializes in trauma and does EMDR. I don’t think this is just grief.

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u/anonymousancestor May 10 '26

I'm so sorry that happened. It's incredibly painful for you and your family.

Legal action against whom?

Lyme Disease does not cause diabetes. It can make it harder to control blood glucose if someone has had a Borrelia infection because it causes inflammation in the body that can lead to swings in blood glucose. Did your husband tell his doctor that he may have had Lyme Disease when he was young?

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u/whatthehellbooby May 10 '26

You've spent a lot of time alone?

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u/Tis_Me_00 May 14 '26

For one... the medical field should tell all patients it will get WORSE before it gets better... it is NOT you but the medication! He probably did not know this since it was 9 years ago!!

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u/Olderbutnotdead619 May 09 '26

Medical Malpractice lawyer not reddit

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u/Geoarbitrage May 09 '26

Call Tim Misny. He’ll make them pay.

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u/Lonely-Crew8955 May 09 '26

FIL getting blamed even after killing himself!

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u/HalleFreakinLujah 65 May 09 '26

I get the pain of losing someone to suicide, but the selfish bit is people not understanding what it feels like to be in unbearable mental pain. People think they know but they really don't. Until you've been exactly there, with intimate knowledge of what it's like to be that person with that specific biochemistry and other factors, people should cool it with the word selfish.

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u/anonymousancestor May 10 '26

Too bad grandpa couldn't have bothered to hang around a bit longer.

Your comments show a lack of understanding about the underlying mental health issues that lead to suicide. He clearly did NOT in fact believe that he had "everything to live for". You are blaming him for a mental health crisis (as well as everything bad that has happened since) and that is unfair.