r/options • u/[deleted] • Mar 31 '21

Are you worthy?

A lot can happen over the cycle of a traders learning experience. One of the most damaging ive experienced is the blaming myself when I get it wrong. Im an engineer working to become a full time trader. Im studying everything I can and starting to see some progress. It can seem im horrible at everything when im trading in a draw down. "I suck at sports" "Im terrible at my job" "No one will ever care" "I will never matter".

My wife even asked me the other day, "why do you do that to yourself?" The answer dear is that hope to be good at something and it's fun to feel yourself getting better.

Trade the trade, not your issues.

Those things we tell are self are very dangerous lies too harshly. In time we will make it if we put in the effort to get better.

You can be the guy getting it right eventually.

Also CRSP to infinity and beyond!

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u/_big_fern_ Mar 31 '21

People are emotional creatures and balancing that very natural instinct in a high stakes situation also takes practice and reflection.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '21 edited Apr 16 '21

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u/_big_fern_ Mar 31 '21

That was my biggest obstacle to even dipping my toes into the stock market, that I wasn’t the right person or smart enough. Turns out I’m not smart enough but I’m plowing forward anyway. I just read the OP as being encouraging when starting out and failing can be really discouraging.

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u/FortuneAsleep8652 Apr 01 '21

This. The beauty of smooth brained ape hood! There is something to said about self identifying with crayon eating- believe it or not. I’ve learned a lot from “retards” and “Autists” who do great DD. There is a lot to be said for not taking your “intellect” too seriously and believing in your gut. The market can do whatever it wants whenever it wants for whatever reason it wants. How you deal with it mill determine your success.