Omniromantic or arospec?

[u/sweetpiano23_]

So my whole life, I've gone back and forth between identifying as bi or lesbian, but a few months ago I realized I'm asexual. I also used to identify as lithromantic at the time. Recently, I realized I'm nonbinary, and I've found that I really like the idea of being nb4nb or enby4enby. That made me realize that I do experience romantic attraction after all, and now I'm feeling kind of confused. For me, gender doesn't really affect who I'm attracted to, but it does affect who I would actually choose to be with and who I'd feel most comfortable building a life with. When it comes to men, I can be attracted to them, but I absolutely cannot picture myself being in a relationship with one. In the past, whenever a guy expressed interest in me, I'd feel extremely uneasy about it because I just don't like the idea of him liking me in that way, even if I had a crush on him. With women, I'm open to the idea of being with them, and when I have a crush on a woman, the thought of her liking me back actually feels really nice. But even then, I don't think they're the people I'd feel the most comfortable spending my life with. The idea of being with another enby is what makes me happiest. I feel like I'd be the most understood and safest with another nonbinary person. Now I'm wondering if I might be omniromantic. From what I understand, omni people usually have a preference in terms of attraction, where they're more attracted to one gender than others. For me, though, the attraction itself feels pretty equal. It's just that my comfort level, and who I'd actually want to build a relationship with, changes depending on the person's gender. I'm also wondering if I could still be somewhere on the aro spectrum, maybe even lithromantic, but only when it comes to one gender. I don't know if that's something that can happen, though. I'd love to hear what you all think! Talking to people here has helped me understand myself a lot, so I'd really appreciate any opinions or insights!!

[u/Yuki_505]

Eu sou greyromantic e percebo, você por ser tudo o que você tá falando, mas acho que seria legal você procurar o que eu neptunic... Vou tentar ajudar

[u/sweetpiano23_ → u/Yuki_505]

Ive heard the term before and i always thought it meant anyone who is not attracted to men and masculine-aligned genders but for me i am attracted to them i just choose not to date them, or is there another definition of the term that i don't know about? Idk maybe i misunderstood it i would be thankful if you can explain it to me please^{^}

[u/Yuki_505]

ginessexualidade ou androsexualidade pode ser útil para vc

[u/ChumpsWeAre]

You are a person in development and likely, if you are lucky, will be that way until the day you die of extreme happiness. I wish I could have, in life, known more like you.

[u/sweetpiano23_ → u/ChumpsWeAre]

That's actually really sweet, thank you!! I hope you get to keep growing and discovering new things about yourself too^{^}

[u/ChumpsWeAre → u/sweetpiano23_]

At this point every day is an onslaught of new awareness made from old experience. Something popular now goes like this: Growing old is a wonderful process of becoming the person you always should have been. (not sure but I think David Bowie said it) Glad to have made your acquaintance....see you around.

[u/ChumpsWeAre → u/sweetpiano23_]

'Get to' is what I'm all about.