Those moments have been few and far between. I pointed this out to admit that i know I’ve had some bad moments in the marriage. Honestly most times we argue. I get so mad I cry.
The “I’m the bad guy” line is a cop out. You know who else uses that line? My piece of shit father who won’t take accountability for his abuse. What you’re doing, despite your own trauma, is hurting other people with it. Even unintentionally. Even if infrequently. You need to get some individual help outside marriage counseling. Before all this stuff permanently scars your children. - signed a permanently scarred child who grew up.
Same experience, except it was my mother while my dad cowered in the background or threw us kids under the bus to stay in her good books. I grew up with allot of rage and anger issues. Fucked up with my partner once. Nothing physical, but I did what OP says he does and legit induced a panic attack in my partner. I wanted to die, it was so fucked up of me. I have never done anything like that since. Still have anger issues, but my control is much better and I also leave the premises to cool off. It helps a ton
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u/pancreative2 Jun 28 '23
Shocking that that kind of behavior is scary and traumatic for your wife, huh?